Been with my gf for around 5 years and we’ve been doing long distance for the last 4 years. We met in high school and are now in different parts of the world. We fight very often but also have peaceful moments now and then.

Today, I was screen sharing different restaurants in my city and I was talking about how I wanted to come back to this city in the future and live here when I have more money, time, and her to roam around with (the city I live in is one of the most expensive cities in the world).

I said “aren’t these places so nice. This is why I want to come back to [city’s name], I live in the shit part rn but I want to come back and experience the nice parts”. She proceeded to say “I mean it’s not that nice, it’s nothing special. The decor is average and food also seems normal. I can get pizza in Italy and x in this city, and y in that city. There is nothing unique about it so Idk why you’d say that you want to live there because of these places”.

I explained that it wasn’t the restaurants exactly that make me want to come back but the fact that I haven’t experienced the nice parts of my city and I want to come back, live here for a while, and do that. Then I told her that her saying it’s not special and that she can get x in that city, etc. wasn’t necessary and that it felt like she was shitting on something I was excited about. She said I asked her for her opinion and that from now on she will keep her opinions to herself. ????????

I told her that when she says things like that and labels it as being honest and logical, it doesn’t make sense. When you see that someone is excited about something, you don’t have to shit on it. She said she wasn’t shitting on it and that I asked her for her opinion when I said “aren’t these places so nice” and that she doesn’t think they’re nice enough for me to want to live there EVEN THOUGH I told her many many times that it’s not the place specifically but the fact that I want to experience the nice parts of the city ppl keep raving about.

Her same justifications kept going on - it’s like she wasn’t even listening to what I was saying and was just waiting for the noise to stop coming out of my mouth so that she could immediately respond with the same thing she had been saying for 10 minutes, completely ignoring what I was saying in response. Hearing not listening. I got frustrated, it was very late, and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I hung up on her face (which I shouldn’t have done) but then she texts me saying “Fuck you” “Woman.” “Boohoo” “Pathetic loser” “Fuck off” and then says I have shitty behaviour.

I have also said mean things in the past - all I wanted to say to her was that she has the emotional maturity of a toothpick but I didn’t say anything because she asked me to stop saying mean things while fighting because it hurt her. Now she’s doing the exact same thing. She has called me a woman before and I’ve told her that it’s not okay and she said she knows it is not okay and that she only did it to antagonise me cuz I was annoying her.

I can’t do this anymore. I am so tired. Am I abnormal? Am I being oversensitive? I can accept being in the wrong - I just don’t see how I am wrong in this case. Thank you in advance.