My boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for a year and a half. It was very good, we knew and understood the hardships of a long distance relationship, we respected one another, and we trusted each other to not cheat (several conversations on it). A few months ago I noticed that he's being distant and short with me. He dismisses it and says that he's just tired from work. This goes on for a while, but I trust what he says. However, (we use an app for our texting) I notice that he's on the app, hasn't read my text, and doesn't talk to me for several hours or the next day. This is not our dynamic. We would talk to each other in the evening hours until we went to bed. I dismiss the change in behavior and tell myself that he's talking to other friends. On the weekends he would revert to being himself again. But this goes on for weeks and each time I ask him what is wrong, I get "tired". And there are days sprinkled in these weeks where we are back to our normal dynamic.

Still, my paranoia increases so I do a bit of digging. I look at his friends list and see if there are any new girls that he might be talking to. I find one potential, she lives in the same city as him, used to go to his old high school, but the caveat is she has a kid. I relax and dismiss my intrusive thoughts.

A few more weeks go by and I think everything is fine again. We seem to be back in our dynamic, but then one evening he's very cold to me. I've only inquired about his day and the book I know he's reading. Then nothing, just ghosted for several days. I knew where this was going but I wasn't going to just let him ghost me. We're adults! If you want to end it then use your words. We finally have the conversation. He says the long distance is killing him, and again, I get it. Coming together in the same city would have taken more time he wasn't willing to give. We end things amicably. I'm heartbroken, but it's not like this came out of left field. I had prepared myself mentally. But a couple days ago (Easter) I see pictures of him with the same girl that I had checked into. Clearly a couple. It's only been two weeks, but the dates on when the pictures were posted were during the weekend he had ghosted me. Before we broke up and that doesn't just happen, there had to have been conversations in the days or weeks prior! While I can't prove physical cheating, I am confident that he was emotionally cheating on me.

So, AITAH for calling him out on this? To which he replied that I was just making him the bad guy, and he did nothing wrong.