I'm going to preface this by saying if the rare chance that some big redit storytelling channel does find this post, I must ask that you don't make a video on it or mention it unless you find it in 2029 when I will be a legal adult and out of my situation. On to the story, I am currently a 14-year-old freshman in high school but this story will go back to times I was younger. I will do my best to date the stories but there will likely be quite a bit of human error. I will also be using fake names for privacy reasons.

The people involved are my older brother, Liam who is 17 and his mom is a deadbeat out of the picture; my younger brother, David who is 9 and Alice's kid; my dad who is 33; my dad's current fiancee, Amanda who is 23; my ex-step mother, Alice; dads ex #1, Nina; ex #2, Moly; Nina's daughter, Elly; and my mom.

I do love my dad, I truly do, he is someone I can look back in the past and remember happy memories of the two of us. He is not perfect though, the first signs I could have picked up on were how ever since he and my mom broke up he constantly down-talked her and attempted to put her in a bad light. My mom refrained from doing the same. That in itself would have never been enough to make me take such drastic measures. It started when my now-ex-stepmom got a job as a trucker and was away from home a lot, leaving my dad as a stay-at-home husband (I am now old enough to understand this was to avoid paying child support). My dad claimed to have felt lonely so he proposed the idea of a poly relationship with a girl he met online, Nina. Nina was a girl who was 19 and in a bad home environment. I don't know the exact details but she had cut off contact with her parents. Over the time I was at my mom's house Nina and Elly moved in. This was when I was in 6th grade and 11 years old. I was young and happy to have a new person around so I welcomed her with open arms and would make her cookies and anything sweet because she had gotten covid and really only liked spicy and sweet foods due to losing her sense of taste. It didn't affect me much but my older brother Liam was left to take care of four-year-old Elly. Alice didn't argue at the time and that was how we lived for 5 months. I started to notice how my dad favored Nina over Alice and started to actively show favoritism towards Alice to balance it out. During this time I grew closer with Alice while we had previously been distant. Then Moly came who was "just friends" with dad. She had just broken up with her boyfriend and needed a place to stay so dad offered. I also became very close with her. Dad would often kiss her and I later found out because she had no where else to go she would let my dad do whatever he wanted. Eventually, Alice asked my dad to become monogamous again because the favoritism made her uncomfortable. They moved out and dad agreed but kept messaging Nina in secret. A year later when I was then 12 Alice found out and they got a divorce. Since then Alice has gotten primary custody of David. They moved a state over since and dad has custody in the summer. Things we great for about two months, dad had much more time to spend with us and we felt like a family again. Then his newest girlfriend, Amanda, came. At first, she would drive me to school in the mornings on Monday and we would get coffee. I'm not a coffee person but it was still nice and I liked her quite a bit. She was like an aunt to me; this was when I was in the 8th grade and 12. Then within one month, she moved in. It was fine at first but quickly things changed. Almost every night I could hear her and my dad having sex and any trace of Alice was thrown away and replaced. They re-decorated the entire house. My dad and Amanda do not do well with head-on confrontations so I tried wording it as a joke to try and fix the issue of hearing them. I playfully said, "Make sure to keep the noise down tonight, wouldn't want to hurt any young ears." They laughed it off and said, "You're 12, you've said and heard much worse." I figured that would be it but the noise didn't stop. I just started putting on headphones and listening to music but I can't sleep with earbuds in because I'm a side sleeper. But that was something I could deal with, I'd just have to deal with being sleepy in the mornings and a little grouchy. They also stayed up til 2:am watching loud movies and also didn't stop when I asked again. But that was fine. I'd live with it. Then Amanda "jokingly" said she'd be even louder with dad when I accidentally ate some leftovers in the fridge I wasn't supposed to as "punishment." My dad did nothing to stop this. Amanda was very protective about her food and got mad if anyone ate the wrong thing. Added context is that they had a whole 5ft by 4ft mini fridge in their room. But that would have been fine if she labeled her food or even sent a text saying "Don't eat this", but she didn't. Instead, she'd yell at us if we ate the wrong thing. I'm not generally confrontational and I'm the type to cry when yelled at. I eventually just stopped eating there and only ate if the food had been deliberately made for us kids. This is why I stopped bringing up issues because she turned them into a weapon against me. Even that was fine and something I could deal with. Dad spent nearly all his time with her, they both have co-dependency of some kind, even when apart they'd call constantly. I have a rule with myself and not one anyone has given to me, no phone in the car, the car is the place I get to talk with my mom and dad because we have a 45-minute drive between their houses. I used to talk to dad during this time but he was always on the phone with Amanda. The only thing he'd talk about was politics. But still, it was fine. He started forcing me to hang out with the family and I would have done it willingly if he didn't have us do it at 10pm. I have school and I like to make up at 4-5:am. He would force me to stay up till 1:am sometimes and obviously, I was tired and upset. I ended up snapping at them a good few times and I honestly almost cried a few times because I knew this would cause me to be exhausted at school the next day as he even made me do it on Sunday nights. I was exhausted and frustrated but when I tried to talk to him he told me I was being "A bitch" and that the world didn't revolve around me. I started locking myself in my room at 6:pm pretending to be asleep so he'd leave me alone even if it meant skipping dinner. One time he made me stay up till 2:am the night before my school concert and I was so exhausted I fell asleep as soon as I got home and slept through the entire thing. I love singing very much and due to missing it I had to write a two-page paper. I genuinely cried over this but still I hadn't even considered cutting contact. Then Amanda started making jokes about me and my oldest brother Liam. Me and my brother were very close at the time. Me and him were play fighting and I was tickling him. Amanda said it looked sexual so we stopped and have never done it since but she still jokes about us getting intimate. We have now grown much more distant. I have a very hard time picking up on sarcasm and being able to tell when people are lying to me. Amanda and my dad made a joke of telling lies to me. They told me she was pregnant with twins and I believed her for 9 months. She told me her and my dad were half-siblings and she still says so. She jokes about my dad grooming her but as they met when she was 16 and he was her boss in an ice cream shop it doesn't seem like a joke at all. It's actually quite uncomfortable to realize all the women my dad has been with were all estranged from their parents and in need of a home. My dad also tends to make uncomfortable comments about my body. I have developed rather early and have been a C-cup since 7th grade and I'm now an F-cup. I have a rather "desirable" body as I have what most would call an hourglass figure. My dad would make comments on it. When I was 12 he told me he could tell any girl's cup size and I said I didn't believe him. He proceeded to cup my chest and uncomfortable as it was guess my size. Another time I decided I wanted to dress up for myself and look nice so I was walking around in a simple black dress. I knocked on my dad's door to ask him for something and when he saw me he looked me up and down and said "Damn..." in that drawn-out way guys do. I hated it. He also recently made a comment about it looking like I was losing weight and complimenting me on it. But even then I didn't intend to leave. Liam needed new pants and dad always complained about being too broke to get any but then rented out an entire movie theater for him and Amanda's one-year anniversary. He always does this, spoiling his girlfriend and not giving Liam what he needs. I can handle him neglecting me because I have my mom who I absolutely adore. She isn't perfect but she is all I could ask for. I have support where he doesn't. My dad pierced my ears himself and the night after he pierced them one fell out and I knocked on his door to get a replacement so the hole wouldn't close he was too busy having sex with Amanda to answer the door and I ended up staying up until 2:am waiting. When he did answer the door Amanda was mad at me for 'killing the mood' and when he put them back in it was too late so he ended up scarring my ears which are still scarred. Even then, I didn't want to leave. But two months ago I experienced a panic attack, they run in the family on my dad's side. I texted my mom because I was freaking out and I felt like I couldn't breathe. Mom told me to tell my dad because she was an hour away and couldn't help. I stood outside my dad's door pacing trying to work up the courage but I couldn't bring myself to knock on his door. At the time I was sick and didn't know I was having a panic attack, I just knew I could barely breathe and felt like I was gonna pass out I ended up taking some decongestant medicine and locking myself in the bathroom where I cried and hyperventilated until it passed. That night something clicked, in what felt like a life or death situation at the time I couldn't bring myself to reach out to my dad. I do love my dad but he is not someone I trust and not someone I can reach out to when I seriously need it. I decided not to go back that weekend. I just couldn't. It was all too much and I just couldn't. I told my mom I wasn't willing to go back and she talked me into taking a one-month break and discussing solutions where I could see him less or other ways to rebuild the relationship. I agreed not to do anything too rash and this is the text conversation quoted directly with zero edits or typo corrections outside of name changes.

Me:Dear dad, I am writing to tell you I will not be going to your house for all of March. I need some time to think over what I can handle and what I need. We have grown distant and I believe you are aware of this. I am not writing this to tell you I hate you and I am not writing this in malice but as things are, I am emotionally struggling to see the positives in going to your house and due to this I need some space. Please do not try to come and pick me up from moms on Friday and for the rest of March. Please try to understand what I'm trying to do and think of my needs before responding. Love me. 7:27pm

Dad:Why do you think we have grown distant? 7:30pm

Is there somthing I have done wrong that has hurt you in some way? 7:31pm

As you have given no reason at all. I'll see you Friday as the court order dictates. I understand you have grown distant over the last 6 months. We can have a sit down and a real conversation about our feeling this weekend. But unless you want me out of your life forever and your mom is willing to stop child support and take full custody with me signing my rights away because you have grown to hate me for some reason. We can talk this weekend. 7:57pm

Me:As I have stated previously, I do not hate you. I just need some time so as I have stated I will not be comming to your house this weekend or any others for March. 8:01pm

Dad:You are a 14 year old child and I am a pernent with a court order. You can ask me with a reason. But I make the rules. You do not. Your an emotional 14 year old girl and if these are the choices you want to make without even giving a reason. I will be a parent and tell you that you will be coming you don't have a choice. You may need a parent in your life now that you are getting older and I'm not there enough. 8:09pm

Me:I have attempted this conversation in person many times and and now over text. I can seen this time will not be productive aswell and I am not interested in fighting over this. You can not physical force me to go anywhere. I think it is time I hand this conversation over to the adults. But that does not mean I am handing over my voice. I just have said what I need to say. 8:16pm

Dad What conversation.. you haven't stated a single concern. 8:20pm

I will arrive with the police. I won't have to force anything. A child has no choice whatsoever. They will enforce the court order. If you and your mother don't cowoperate, she can be arrested and that will be on you. Maybe you should tell me what conversation you have tried to have. 8:23pm

Best guess I have is you got a girlfriend and would prefer to hang out with her and are making up issues to fit your narrative in a manipulative way 8:25pm

You could even try calling and having a conversation. I always call first and make the first attempt. I suggest games and movies. I call and tell you I love you. You never make a first move. You respond or don't. Our relationship is super one sided I do for you try to engage and spend time with you and you give less and less back. Why are you so cold. 8:29pm

Are you ready to have any kind of conversation. Or do you still want to shut me out. I have no idea what the problem even is . You haven't told me anything. It's not some kind of visitation. Your mother and I have split custody. Your mother has primary placement because you go to school there. But my home is no less Your home and your mother's. You say you are having trouble seeing positives. I see meals togeather time with your father and brother family games and movies. Conversation. I know you are distant and try to avoid us alot. And I give you space because your a teenage girl. Maybe that was a bad choice. I want to know what problem you have. If or when you want to see me again and where this flawed perception of family is coming from. Like a teenager can wake up one day and choose to break up with her family.. you can move out and choose when and if you spend time with them at 18. When you have a job and a car and it ist their responsibility to care for you. Financially physically and through teaching. But the idea that you think this is how things work tells me how immature you are and how little you are ready to make adult decisions. 8:40pm

Me As I have stated previously, if you come to my house I will not be comming with you. I have made my need for space clear and you immediately going on to barratt me only goes to show why I need this space. I am old enough to make choices for myself and the choice of taking space is a right I have that you can not take away. I did not say I intended to cut you off completely, I simply wont be coming to your house for March. Please do not come to my house as I will not go with you. 4:31pm the next day

Dad I have to come to document that I am not breaking my court order. Whether you like it or not. I will have to have the police come and take note that you and your mother are refusing the custody arrangement and are in contempt of court. This simply isn't a choice we get to make living with your parents is an obligation of children and their parents to care for them. You can refuse im sure but the cops will have to come and make a report. As those reports add up I will have grounds to go to court and adjust to full custody then there won't be any arguments. 4:35pm

He then added a screenshot of google that was searching what would happen if an ex held a child against cort order. The restults are different when a child id refusing to go so it is unnecessary and he was using it to try and make me believe I was on the wrong side of the law.

These are just the rules we are together required to follow. If you won't to work on whatever problems you have you are unwilling to communicate we can sit down and do so 4:39pm

It's just not optional for either one of us. Custody arrangements can be adjusted between your mother and myself. You aren't one of the 2 decision makers in this process. 4:41pm

And she hasn't said a word to me. 4:42

Me:You and Amanda make sexual incest jokes about me and Liam and it is incredibly disgusting. I will not come to your house. 5:16pm

Dad: Joking that you guys do cute couple things like paint eachothers nails is not in any way an explicit sexual joke. That kind of joke and sexual talk like that isn't tolerated at my house. We can all sit down and talk about your emotional sensitivity toward anything that offends you and have everyone agree on what might be triggers for you to be avoided in humor or other conversation. 5:22pm

See you in an hour5:22pm

There has never been a joke pertaining to anything perverse. Nothing sexual in nature pertaining to sex or sexual organs. Only the 2 of you doing couple things. And if you are offended and don't want it to happen.. all you have to do is ask. It's as good as done and happened rarely to begain with. 5:28pm

Me: You guys said me and Morgan were going to end up following in you and Annas' footsteps when me and Morgan were play wrestling acting as if me and Morgan were gonna fuck. That was gross. No matter how you twist it it is disgusting. I don't care what you say, I'm not comming. Do not come because I will not come with you. 5:32pm

Dad: I don't have a choice. I'm not twisting anything. And I can't even remember the last time you and Morgan wrestled. Also the joke is Anna and I are so similar it's like we were twins separated at birth. We aren't related. I'll be there at 6:30ish. The court order is law.. literally. If you have any issue with that you can have your mother contact me and we can handle it legally 5:35pm

Me: I am not comming. I know my rights. Do not come. 5:37pm

Dad: Your mother and I decide your rights. Your a 14 year old child. There are the right to follow your parents instructions or throw a fit... that's all 5:38pm

Me: When you and the police officer arive I am going to explain how uncomfortable I am with your innuendos. You're waisting your gass, stay home. 4:47pm

We are meeting with a lawyer Monday.4:48pm

Dad:For all I know your mother will be gone weekends this month and you wanna be unsupervised to hang with friends. I come unless I hear otherwise from her period. She is the parent not you 5:48pm

Me:Then talk to her! I Already said I was handing this situation to the adults. I am perfectly cared for at moms unlike at your house. Also don't talk about me being alone all weekend because that's all I do at your house. 5:51pm

Dad: Alone till the parent gets home from work is how all children live. For the longest time your mother worked while you were at grandma or grandpa's house. If you feel incapable of hanging out with your brother till I'm home from work I will get you a sitter 5:53pm

Do you have an actual issue we can talk about or is it just your 14 and want to be 18. 5:54pm

If you want me to talk to your mother have her message me. I'm leaving work in 6 minutes and I'll be there soon 5:55pm

Me: I said I'm not comming and you can't make me. Comming will only waist your gas. Don't come. 5:56pm

Dad: As soon as your mother messages me ill consider it 5:57pm

Ok your mom messaged me. She let me know you feel unsafe at my house. If some joke I don't remember told over the summer. The last time you and your brother wrestled. Makes you feel unsafe. In spite of the fact that there has never been any physical abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse. Or abuse, otherwise. I will file this with the police and you don't have to see me. She will be filing in court on monday.In hopes that i don't have to be part of your life anymore. If that's how you feel, i'm sorry I failed you so. Terribly as a father 6:17pm

Am I overreacting? Everyone says this isn't okay and it doesn't feel okay and I'm tired of crying all the time because it's all just too much but I don’t know if I'm being hormonal and dramatic. I just feel so disconnected with reality and like I'm living another life. I'm turning 15 in just a few months and it's all so confusing. I don’t want a dad who threatens to give up his rights for me. Is this normal? I feel horrible because I don’t regret it. I miss him and my brothers but it just wasn't worth it. I feel like a weight is off my shoulders and I'm starting to question if something is wrong with me. It shouldn't feel this easy to cut him off but at the same time I cry every tome something reminds me of him or my brothers. I've just been an emotional mess and my only real coping mechanism is keeping busy with school and volunteering. I've done 60 hours community service, I've been a straight A student all year, and I'm being put in an art show next Wednesday. I just feel fake, like the only things about me that are actually good are my achievements. I feel like a bad person and I feel like something is wrong with me. I feel sad and angry but it feels like the wrong kind of angry amd sad. I've been called apathetic in the past but I'm starting to really believe something is wrong with me. And I being dramatic? Should I have just taken it? I need an unbiased opinion.