I (F about to be 30) stopped going to church because a guy (M in his 60s) was getting me to be in a relationship when I was starting to get used to driving when I was 25. So I was still going to church while I was 25, and while I was getting used to driving a guy from the same church, I went to say that he wanted to help me get used to driving. I accepted it because he was a church member, and usually, church members are trustworthy.

We started going on trips, and he was helping me get used to driving. During the time I was getting used to driving, he took me to date spots. I started getting uncomfortable at this point, and to make it worse, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said, "Maybe if you were my age." He asked again, and I said,"Yeah, if you were my age." He didn't hear the second part and started calling me on my phone and started calling me his girlfriend. I explained that I wasn't his girlfriend. I never was, and I never will be and that he was too old for me.

When I got my first car, he tried to take a ride with me a few times, and I started to back off. I also started to be blunt and honest, and I saw him as a pervert. I told my family about it and my therapist about it, and they told me to avoid church and tell the pastor about it.

I told the pastor and his wife about it, and they talked to the guy about it. He completely lied about and said that he was just being helpful. That was a bunch of bullshit because I heard it and witnessed it.

I tried to avoid him ever since, and it got to the point of me stopping in going to church completely. When he tries to call me or if I see him, I make the conversation brief, and I set a wall between us, and I think I stopped him from contacting me completely. Thr guys is the reason why I dont go to church anymore.

Am I the asshole for not going to church because of a guy in his 60s and probably heading into his 70s by now. When this happened, it was 5 years ago, and to this day, I'm still bothered by it.

Edit: Because of the guy trying to date me, I left the church, and my Christian beliefs died out.