My brother is getting married tomorrow at 4:30 PM, and I’m feeling incredibly conflicted about attending.

We were invited tonight at 8 PM. I use the term invited loosely because my dad texted me about the wedding before my brother did.

What makes this especially hard for me is that this is the exact same courthouse where I got married two years ago. Back then, my family told me they were too busy to come. No one showed up, no one congratulated us, and a few days later, they actually called to yell at me and accused us of being selfish for when we chose to get married. Now, with less than 24 hours’ notice, everyone seems available and more than eager to celebrate my brother in the exact same setting.

There’s also the added fact that something happened between my mom and my brother’s fiancée that ultimately led to my wife being essentially disowned by my family. We still don’t know exactly what happened, and no one will give us a clear answer- but somehow my wife ended up on the receiving end of the fallout. So now being expected to bring her to the same spot we got married, surrounded by people who’ve consistently made her feel unwelcome and disrespected our relationship, feels incredibly unfair and uncomfortable.

I do love my brother and genuinely want to support him, but this whole thing feels like a massive double standard and really hurts. We were close as kids, but we’ve grown apart as adults and live pretty separate lives now.

Between the short notice, the location, the family pressure, and how differently we were treated, I’m really struggling with whether or not we should go.

TL;DR: My family skipped our courthouse wedding and later disowned my wife over drama involving my brother’s fiancée, a situation we still don’t understand. Now they’re expecting us to show up at his last-minute wedding at the same exact location, and it just feels really hurtful. AITA for not wanting to go?