About 9 months ago my gf at the time gave me a Stone Island jacket which her uncle had gave to her.

When she did this I was a bit shocked but obviously insanely grateful. I explained to her why I didn’t deserve this and made sure she took all factors into consideration (It’s a sick vintage stone island jacket and it was a gift from her uncle)

She acknowledged all of this and told me it was a gift and she never takes gifts back. She made it clear it is now my jacket and I still.

We broke up on relatively good terms about 3 months later as she went to Uni. I offered her one last chance out of countless times to take the jacket back and she refused.

Now 6 months after having no contact with her or her family, her little brother (barely 15) has randomly decided that he wants the jacket. So he messaged me asking for it and I declined.

I did feel slightly guilty about this but he was not the one who gave it to me, he’s always been a bit of a greedy guy (once again he’s barely 15 in all fairness) and I had finally accepted the jacket as being mine after all this time

My ex has now messaged me for the first time since things ended also asking for the jacket back. Saying that the jacket has sentimental value (told her this multiple times when she gave it to me) and that she “wasn’t in the right headspace” when she gifted it to me. she said she was under a lot of stress at the time and it led to her giving me the jacket “impulsively” (once again, offered it back countless times while she was under no immediate stress)

while I don’t think she’s lying I do think she’s massively exaggerating this and using it as an excuse

A running theme throughout our relationship was her saying one thing and then changing her mind for no reason other than “I didn’t think about it” and always expecting people to accommodate to that. Other than this she essentially couldn’t take responsibility for her actions, mostly ever.

And now 6 months after we’ve broken up she’s doing it again.

I feel conflicted but I don’t want to give my jacket back. Am I the asshole?