I’m a 18 year old male and my brother is 2 years older than me. Now my brother is a big introvert and a complete loner. He has no friends unlike me and the rest of my family and he likes to keep to himself most of the time. He’s super shy, awkward, and quiet even around us. He’s not very talkative and is never the first to speak. If you wanna spark a conversation with him you have to be the one to start it and maintain it which is a big hassle as he gives very short replies when you talk with him.

And outside of home, work, and the church that he goes to he doesn’t really get out much. Like Monday-Friday he works practically works all day long, comes home, works out, shower, eat dinner, reads, and goes to bed. Like he’s never gone out one night in the last few years. Except for his Bible studies and what not.

He has the weekend off but he doesn’t really do much with them. All he does is go for a run on the beach and swim, get his groceries, do his laundry, his other chores around the house, spends some time outside, makes his lunch, and then just spends the rest of the day inside. Doing things like reading, watching documentaries, playing video games, and working on some fantasy novel he hasn’t even finished yet.

He doesn’t put any effort into making new friends or going out to meet people. I sometimes try to get him involved and invite him to some parties and hangouts with my friends that I go to every week but he always declines and it’s kind of annoying.

And it’s not like he does this because people don’t like him. In fact for some reason everyone seems to really like him. I can’t see why but anytime he’s mentioned or brought up it’s always met with praise and admiration. Friends and close family asking how he’s doing, what’s he been up too, is he around. And also talking about how hard he works, how nice he is, how fit he is, how handsome he is, how smart he is, he’s so humble , and such a good person. Even my own friends too really like him and always asking if he’ll be coming along on our hangouts. I mean literally everyone that knows him wants to be his friend or just talk or hang out with him. Like it’s so easy for him to get people to like him and make new friends but he never puts in any effort to. He could easily make friends if he tried to but he never does. Even all of my female friends seem to like him and find him attractive. I mean he is a good looking guy., not as much as me but still good looking.And they have all said that they’d be down to date him or just hook up with him. And I have told him about this and I could set him up with them if he wanted but he’s always declined. It happened so much that I asked if he was asexual. To which he shrugged and said eh maybe a little.

I mean I’ve tried everything to get this man a social life but he just won’t budge. Last week I asked him again if he wanted to join me and my friends at a party and he said no. And after this I just asked if he ever planned on ever getting friends. He just looked at and asked what do you mean? And I answered like you know people to hang out with or have a fun time with and not spend every moment of your life alone. And he just shrugged and said I like being alone it suites me and besides it’s not like I don’t know anybody. I said sure but you have no friends. And he just shrugged again and had a very apathetic look on his face and didn’t answer.

After this told him that he needs to get a life and stop being so damn lonely for once. And he asked why? I said why what? And he said why do I need friends? To make me happy, I’m already happy I love being alone and seeing people every now and then. I know it’s not normal but I’m not a normal person. I’m fine with it, why can’t you be. I don’t live your life and you shouldn’t have to want to live mine. We’re different people with different thoughts, personalities, feelings and goals. So just happily live your life and leave me to mine if you can manage it. And besides I’d rather be alone for the rest of my life than have any fake friends like you do.

I said what do you mean? And he responded saying that my friends aren’t real friends and that they just take advantage of me and that they are bad people and I’d be better off without them. I called BS and just walked out.

Later on he told my mom and sister what had happened and now everyone that knows about this fight seems to think that I’m the asshole but they’re wrong. They’ve probably only got his side of the story and not mine. No one is listening to me so I came here and wrote this post. So Reddit am I the asshole?