I've been friends with someone long distance for over a year. We met online and have developed a friendship over time. We talk pretty much every day. He does not have an easy life. He's struggled with drugs, prison, money, housing, you name it. About 6 months ago he began dating a girl who is not good for him. They would fight, break up, get back together, break up. This was pretty much an every day occurrence with them. I have nothing against her personally, but I don't agree with the relationship. It's not healthy. I told both of them I was not going to be around to watch them destroy each other. My friend told me they broke up. Fast forward a few months to January, I get a phone call from her, telling me he's in jail and he needs me. She admitted they were together the entire time and he was lying to me about it. I will admit I would occasionally send him money to help him out with food or a place to stay for a night. I think he lied about being with her in order to keep that help line open. He's currently still in jail. He's getting out in a few days. He's told me that he's through with her, she's supposedly started dating someone else, their usual problems continue. Today I was told that when he got out, he was going to be with her and that was it. I told him I respected his decision, I want nothing but the best for him, but he needed to respect my decision to not watch him go down a path that is not going to help him at all. I want to be supportive but he's made this mistake in the past. He hasn't learned anything from previous relationships that he's had. Am I wrong for not wanting to be around for the inevitable crash and burn? I've made it known from the beginning that I don't support the relationship. Am I being an asshole?