I (25M) want to talk to my (29F) girlfriend about setting a boundary. A little bit of backstory. (Didn’t realize it be this long. Sorry)

My girlfriend and I dated for about two years and had some problems and we broke up. We were apart for about six months and then we reconnected and recently decided to try again. We we have been beneficial for a few months now and things have been really good except for one thing.

During our time apart, she was involved with another guy. She was very honest to me about the nature of that relationship and how they hooked up and at one point started developing feelings for each other. It was a very short wing that she had with this other person , but she cut it off because she was still processing our break up. I know who the guy is. We all used to work together.

To clear up any misconception. These two were in no way involved with each other and she did not break up with me to explore something with someone else.

When her and I started back up and I would go over to her place, I would see some of this dude stuff at her place. Before we became official, it bothered me that it was there, but I didn’t feel that it was my place to say anything. Once we had started dating again, I asked her if she would gather up any of your stuff that was there and give it back to him. I wasn’t expecting this to start an argument, but it did. I thought I was making a reasonable request because I did not like having these subtle reminders that somebody was emotionally and physically involved with my girlfriend during our break.

I want to make another point clear. We were officially broken up. She is 100% in the right to be involved with anyone. We had no ties to each other and it was very clear that we were non-involved. I am not upset with her that this happened.

Today, she claims the day, our friends and nothing more and does not see him in any type of romantic way. She very much reassured me that her love is only for me and there’s nothing going on with anyone else especially this other dude. The problem is I now have a different job. The other dude is now her boss and they work together and see each other more frequently. I am wanting to ask her if she can set a boundary with this dude. I see his name pop up on her phone and it’s always very harmless messages, mainly concerning work. Nothing that could be seen as flirting or anything to be concerned about. however, I am still uncomfortable about the situation because I feel that this dude still has feelings for my girlfriend.

At one point, my girlfriend was working a lot of hours and going through a lot of personal stuff with her family and put her in a really hard spot. I did everything I could for her and supporting her and helping her through that time. This other dude would give her handwritten note . Again, nothing to flirty or anything that could be seen as concerning. But he would try to give her stuff the animals. Also, this guy would make it a point to visit her location and help her out. For context, we are all general managers at a restaurant chain in the same town And all had our own store to worry about. He ran the busiest store in town. The reason I mentioned this is because he would always find the time to come to her store.

My girlfriend has left that position in his now working at his location as an assistant. Her placement at this door was not her choice or his choice. But by upper management.

I trust my girlfriend. She has never given me any indication of cheating at all. I have been cheated on in the past and I know what sign out for. My girlfriend does not do this in anyway. However, I know how other due date and I want to make it clear to her that I trust her completely, but I don’t trust the situation.

Would I be in the wrong in asking her to set a boundary and only text dude when it’s absolute emergencies and keep all work related conversations on a separate messaging app that is used specifically for work? (Kind of like Microsoft teams)

TLDR: I want to set a boundary with my girlfriend about a guy she used to be involved with.