We started messaging on Tinder, he told me that he was already considering coming to my city (an hour away) but that he definitely would if I wanted to hookup. He does onlyfans and wanted to film a scene with me, and I told him I’d be down to do that. I haven’t done anything like that but I felt completely sure that I wanted to.

He got a hotel room in my city and I showed up last night. I got there 20 mins late, and I still had to wait for him to set up the cameras. If he was ready and we got started right away I think it would’ve been fine. But it took him a while to set up the cameras, and I started having second thoughts about letting him film me while I was waiting. It just felt off and I got uncomfortable. So I got up and told him I was having second thoughts about filming. Immediately he starts telling me that he came all the way here just for me and paid for the hotel room just for me, trying to pressure me, so I left quickly and he called me an asshole as I walked out.

Now he keeps messaging and threatening me. He’s saying that he’s gonna “ruin” me. not sure how he can, but his messages are so long it’s scaring me. He’s telling me no one fucks him over like that, and that I’m going to find out who I just made an enemy of. And he wants me to pay him back for the hotel room. He seems crazy enough to do anything but I don’t think he even knows my last name. He just has my phone number.

“I’m gonna fuck you over you piece of shit”

I feel shitty but I feel like hookups between two strangers are always retractable? Isn’t it on him that he put so many eggs in one basket, or should I have followed through out of courtesy?