English is not my native language so I will try my best to explain. My husbands sister Anna(24) and her boyfriend Bob (23) are engaged for two years. I have been Anna’s friend for a decade now as I am together with my husband for that long. Ever since she was just a teenager, we talked that one day I am going to be her maid of honor when the right guy comes. So now is the time. I like Bob and I would say that we get along pretty okay. Me and my husband always help them out as we have better money situation and they just started their life after graduating. We are a bit older and have been together for years so we recently had baby. I noticed that Anna’s attitude towards me and my baby changed drastically. She started to get excuses why she don’t want to come over or go out for a walk and grab a coffee and just talk. I miss her as a friend but I brushed it off as I thought I am no longer interesting to her as I am mom now. You know, mom life. Baby’s diapers, bottles, sleepless nights and being tired. So I can’t go out to party anymore or play computer games with her etc. And that is fine, it’s just different life phase for me now. Anyway, they have been planning wedding for last two years and postponing it all the time. So whenever Anna says that wedding is going to happen on September, we all kind of expect that it will be postponed again to February or smth. Suddenly Anna messaged everyone in family chat that they have wedding date. It’s in the middle of May. I was happy but a bit shocked as it’s only less than two months away and I am getting news in family group chat?! As a maid of honor, I am helping her in every possible way I can to make the day happen. With baby I have little free time but I am giving it all to her. It’s going to be a small ceremony and dinner. Nothing big, just cute and lovely wedding. But.. it’s Tuesday. Last week we talked about buying my baby cute outfit for her wedding and she was all excited. And now she just dropped that she don’t want my baby to be there as she thinks that my baby is going to be a problem as everyone will look at baby and not her. And she is worried that her mother also will pay attention to baby not her. I do get that people don’t want kids to weddings but man.. it’s very short notice, my baby is infant and my family is not available for work days to look after baby. I really don’t want to leave infant with babysitter because we never had one and baby’s going to freak out that it’s left with stranger. And I kinda feel hurt because I am giving her all of my time and effort, she was all happy and chatty about how cute baby is going to be on her wedding and we talked about this day for years.. and now dropping this bomb on me. So am I in wrong here? I don’t know if I have overreacted with my emotions because I am busting my ass to help her.

Oh and this is just a small ceremony thing. Big wedding and party is going to happen next year as destination wedding.