I hope this is how you properly do an update lol. Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/Pmqk290HXY

Okay, so. That same night I sent my best friend messages apologizing, and she responded in the morning saying that it was OK but she needed time.

At the end we met in person yesterday and talked everything out. She said being near any couple makes her uncomfortable, unless they are not acting like a couple at all (no, I didn't know she felt uncomfortable on this level). To emphasize: me and my boyfriend really just held hands, occasionally hugged/side hugged, and very rarely had a peck on the lips/cheeks (the front hugs and pecks were only when we weren't directly next to other people, otherwise it would be just hand holding) Wich I know can be a nono in some cultures but I'm my culture is very much acceptable, trust me.

So what happened in the weekend was: - my boyfriend felt shy about being on a trip for the first time with my family, so he mostly wanted to be near me (I did ask him a few times in the first and second day ro do some thing by himself, but he got sick and was in pain, so I started to feel bad about sending him away); - because of that, my best friend was feeling uncomfortable being near us but didn't want to tell me, instead she wanted me to realize her discomfort by myself; - I did realize her discomfort (as you can see by my original post) so I asked her if she was okay a few times but stopped as she always said she was fine (yesterday she said she wanted me to say: "are you uncomfortable with me and my boyfriend?" instead of a general "are you okay?" because she wanted me to realize exactly what was happening). - I kept trying to include her in all my activities because, to be honest, I really didn't know exactly what was happening, I just knew she was uncomfortable but wasn't telling me why. So trying to hang out with her was the only thing I thought to do (as she wasn't saying anything when I asked if she was okay). - All this time she thought I was trying to act like everything was okay, so she amped up ignoring me (leaving when I arrived, giving me short answers, etc.)

In the end she only told me what was really making her feel bad when I broke down and sent her the messages when we came back.

So, yesterday at the talk I kept my apology because, whether I wanted to or not, my actions caused her discomfort, and she explained everything above.

Also, I did ask her if she thought it would have been best if I hadn't invited my boyfriend, and she said that wouldn't have been right, because it's my boyfriend and he should be in my family vacation. She just thought there would be more moments when he was off doing something else.

We are technically okay now, but I can't help but still feel hurt that the whole reason things got out of hand was because she basically wanted me to read her mind. I didn't know the extent of what made her feel uncomfortable because she never told me (but I was supposed to know), I did ask if she was okay (but not in the right was so she didn't tell me).

And I will say it again, because I can predict the comments, that level of display of affecting really is normal in my country (we hug and kiss strangers on both cheeks, so ypu know).

Anyway, we are good now but I just needed to vent.