I am a 30 year old male with old school values. To be clear, I don’t care about body count more so I care about how you got there. For example, 10 boyfriends vs 10 nightstands are completely different if that makes sense. I have basically given up in trying to find a partner with this fucked up hookup culture generation. But two years ago, I met the sweetest angel! She was kind, loving, religious and just a joy to be around. After the first few months I knew that she was the one for me somehow. One day she brought up the body count! I told her mine which was around 15 ( but I am older). She was 22 and told me that she had 2 which one of them was a mistake one night stand. I felt relieved. She always painted this picture of herself, that she was very pure and she refused to give herself up in college ( I didn’t even ask) basically was saying she was almost a virgin lol. In the beginning of our relationship, I noticed some guys would text her ( I am in town if you want to hangout) which I asked her about and she said they were just friends from college ( interesting since she told me she didn’t not give guys a time of day and only had gfs)! I also noticed that she hearted a lot of top less guys pictures on IG ( didn’t think too much of it). One day she slipped up and told me she used to party in college and had to crash at other dudes places ( sleeping in their bed) but said nothing happened other than occasionally kissing. A few months later she slipped up and said she was seeing this guy for a short period of time( never mentioned him) she at first that she refused to have sex with him ( after pressuring her) she admitted that on their first date she gave him head inside the car ( I was basically gutted by this) I asked her why would she lie to me after everything I do for her and she said that it was a mistake and she was scared that I would judge her(….ok got it).

A few months later I was trying to surprise her with a trip to Las Vegas and was showing her that I got the hookup at this nightclub because the promoters were friends of mine ( she started getting nervous for no reason, she literally was sweating) I previously asked her about her gfs trip to Vegas before we met ( we all know the story behind a girls trip to Vegas or Italy! It’s like guys going on a boys trip to Thailand lol) she said it was only about her girls and nothing happened with any guys and she didn’t even meet any guy ( this was like 2 months in the relationship). Present time 2 years later! After I pressured her why she was getting nervous about me going to those promoters! She confessed that one of them gave her a ride to her hotel and she gave him head in the parking lot ( at this point I just went numb inside). Call me whatever you want, but I can’t marry someone who claims to be soooo innocent yet she is just giving head in random parking lots not once but twice! Now I am rethinking those guys in college that she shared the bed with and said nothing happened.

I ended the relationship immediately! Honestly, If she have told me her body count was 5 or 10 or 15 ( she is very hot) I would have understood that and might have given her a chance since she was so sweet and caring to me. But why lie to me first two years straight? What’s the point?

I am not here to seek advice! I consider myself a high value male and I have high standards. But daaaamn why do girls do this shit! Like Just be honest and if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be.

Gentlemen, good luck out there! Always know your worth and never settle for less.