I (18F) was in a 5-year relationship with my boyfriend (18M), and we started dating when I was 13. We were really close, and at the start, he was sweet, loving, and supportive—basically like the perfect partner. But as we grew older, I began to focus on my dreams and goals.

For a while, I've wanted to start my own perfume business. I’ve been researching it for months, working on the concept, and getting excited about it. One day, I shared this dream with my boyfriend, hoping he’d be supportive and maybe even help me brainstorm. Instead, he immediately shut it down, telling me it wasn’t realistic and that it wouldn’t be profitable. He also said he wouldn’t allow me to pursue it because his family has never been into outside work.

I tried to offer alternative solutions, like starting small or working on it part-time, but he kept dismissing everything. When I brought up the idea of him getting a job to support himself or us while I worked on my business, he flat-out refused. He didn’t want any part of it and insisted it was against his values.

I couldn’t keep compromising on my dreams, and after a lot of arguments, I decided to break up with him. I told him that I couldn’t stay in a relationship where my goals and ambitions weren’t supported, and I felt like I needed to move forward with my life.

After we broke up, things got messy. He called me selfish, saying that I ruined everything between us. He even contacted my brother, throwing tantrums and demanding to know why I broke up with him. He said it was my fault, and that I was the one who ended things over something so small.

He’s now calling me names, accusing me of being inconsiderate and only thinking of myself. He’s trying to manipulate the situation, even reaching out to my ex-best friend for answers. He says I ruined everything and keeps blaming me.

I still love him, and a part of me wishes things didn’t turn out this way. But I also know that I can’t put my dreams on hold just to please him. I feel guilty for ending it, but I also feel like I did the right thing for myself.

So, AITA for choosing my dreams and breaking up with him, even though he’s now accusing me of ruining everything?