Recently a family member passed away suddenly and it’s been hard to say the least. It was the relative in questions parent. This relative has a 3 year old, and they refuse to tell the child about their parents death. It’s been months and the child is still unaware. The excuses given at the time were that she wasn’t ready and then the funeral was in the way so it was going to be after that, however the funeral was a couple months ago now. Now the excuse is that she doesn’t want to just spring it on the child so is waiting for the child to ask. However if the child asks when the father isn’t home, she has said she will not tell him. They have visited the deceaseds home and partner many times since and just tell the child deceased is at work. To be quite honest it has really angered and upset me. I know it’s their child and their decision but now it seems sick and unfair that the child just hasn’t seen a grandparent in months and has no reason as to why. To me it seems unfair on the child who has actually asked about the deceased relative since they passed. I’ve started to become short with her and am very angry and struggling to get past it to the point we have now grown apart and barely speak (there are other reasons for this as well).

Am I wrong for being so opinionated on a parenting decision which is not mine to have?

Sorry for vague language.