AITA FOR choosing to adopt another dog . some background here - my husband & I both grew up with dogs . They've always been an important part of the life we share . We are retired now . We've been in Florida 4.5 years .
I'm a retired RN & volunteer at a county animal control/shelter . We have lost 3 dogs who passed after we moved . The last was 8 months ago; he was 11 but it was sudden . I foster and have adopted a couple of these pups . We have 2 now who were medical fosters . We have our alpha female - a staffy who is 8y/o. We had a situation where a rescue dog had to be taken back bc he began showing food aggression & then an incident where he redirected aggression towards me . I was really attached to him . We'd had him almost a year .
I struggled with this loss a lot .
I want to make a point here . I am bipolar 1 . I have been under a psychiatrist's care since I was in college . Moving exacerbated my mood swings but I am working with my doctor very closely . - anyway, after the whole thing with my guy I struggled . And I swung back and forth between "this is for the best" and Grieving bad . I have 4 grown kids . I talked to them all about how it was affecting us & how upset I was - BUT also that he had had, as he grew - tons of high energy & he was overstimulating me .
Anyway . My youngest daughter was visiting the week before this happened & she was really negative about our house being smaller than the one we sold (Where she grew up) & that the "Shoebox " was too small for us and the dogs . She lives in a 5 br midcentury ranch 2 just her husband .
She & I had a long talk & she said " I am so sick of dogs . Everything about dogs . Why so you think I moved half way across the country?" I did agree w her that dogs can be a big responsibility & she knows this - she also knows that her dad & at this time speak different love languages and I am touch & he is Not . I told her I always received a lot of love from raising her & her sibs . I also received a lot of emotional, intellectual stimulation from my work . Both of which aren't happening . We talked about this, about my bipolar, my depression & angst- She said "come to my house . Spend bas long as you want . You can get some emotional reset here . " So we've bought plane tickets .
After my boy (dog) being gone - I have had big sadness & a hard time . I have trouble modulating my sadness . My husband & I talked about it over a period of time & I decided I wanted to look for a little girl at a rescue ( not the county) so there's no unknown trauma history. And I found a 12 week old pup who was whelped at the rescue. Now my daughter is angry & says she's going to stop talking bro me to help me bc I never follow her advice . And "You're probably not coming here either bc you have another dog now" I told her I hadn't changed this plans & she hasn't responded .
AITA for deciding to get this pup? Is she being AH for not wanting me to visit & being so angry with me? I didn't mean to hurt anyone in any way . I felt very strongly that I needed this . And I also accepted my daughter's counseling regarding everything .
I'm upset that she is angry with me . Enough to cancel the visit . Idk if I should go . Or call . Or what