By BeaverDam6969 • Score: 2 • April 6, 2025 9:43 PM
I (31M) met a woman (28F) while traveling abroad. We had an insane connection and one of the best first dates I've ever been on. Normally, when I go on a date while traveling I do not maintain contact afterwards. But with her, we continued talking immediately after the date was over and continued talking everyday since. Its been two months now of us talking almost everyday. She even went on vacation for two weeks and we still maintained contact. Thousands and thousands of message over the course of two months. My issue is her communication, or sometimes lack of. People are busy I understand but she sometimes disappears for a day or two. I have an anxious attachment that I am working very hard on. So she has complimented me on my patience. Last Sunday, after not hearing from her for almost two days, I asked for a bit of reassurance. This started a lengthy back and forth conversation that seemed to be going in the right direction. Until I made a stupid joke. She asked me to clarify my joke. I immediately apologized for it and said Im sorry it was bad timing. The conversation ended with her asking for space. I gave her three days of space and when I asked her if she was ready for a conversation she aplogized saying her ex boyfriend had been in contact with her and she had a lot on her plate with that and work. She has explained that she leans poly but I digress. So she was too busy to think about our little fight. Which I found terribly offensive. And then she proceeded to call us strangers and apologized for romanticising every interaction over the last two months. She also said she would try to make an attempt to be better about communicating. Our conversation ends. Three days go by with no word. So I finally end things with her after sitting on my hands for three days. I ended it in a really amicable way. She wished me the best and I as well. I had to cancel an upcoming vacation that her and I were planning in May and I have gifts I need to return. Why am I so fucked up over this. I really like her but I need to honor my wishes and my self respect. Did I jump the gun? AITA? How the fuck do I feel about this?
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