So allow me to give you some context. I (29 f) is currently pregnant with my best friend's kid (39 m). Him and I have been friends for years and the chemistry has always been there, but we never decided to try anything until a year ago. During that year, we realized that we both were toxic for each other. So we decided to stay friends as we were before. We still keep in touch with each other. The relationship door is completely closed but I left the friendship door open. I always thought that it would help us have a good co-parenting relationship.He's still a bit over possessive and always in between jobs. Meanwhile, I poured myself into my daughter, my work, and school. While I did love him, I recognize that his presence would have hurt me and mine would have helped him. He started seeing someone else and she's wonderful. I stayed single because I want to experience me for awhile. Given I know his circumstance, I agreed to not go after him for child support ever because he's already behind on his other kid with another woman. I did however agree to allow him to have his son whenever he's older and I would give him plenty of time with him when I'm around. I plan on breastfeeding our kid so it's hard to be away for long. Well, he's constantly asking me for money or asking me to buy him and his new girl food for lunch/dinner. When I tell him no, he gets absolutely mean towards me. I've tried to explain that I'm in medical school, working two jobs, plus taking care of my animals, my daughter, saving money up for whatever our son needs, and my bills. Along with that, I have to take maternity leave after the baby is born and I am not getting paid for it so I'm putting money aside. I'm literally a single mom taking care of 2 kids and a whole household 100% by herself. Yet I'm always made the bad guy because I won't buy him or his new girlfriend food or I'm the bad guy for not giving him money for his bills which he never makes. He always has to go to his dad. So dear Reddit, am I the ahole for not helping him out despite him still being my friend?