TL;DR My family is coming the week of 4th of July. I requested 3 days off to spend time with them while they are visiting, didn't think I needed to tell my wife because I'm using PTO but she is pissed because I am "putting us in a financial situation." I mean I feel bad because I feel like she is guilt tripping me but what does she think is supposed to happen when family visits?

AITA?

Edit: I understand that since I didn't explicitly say it that some people are assuming I didn't tell her family was coming. She has known since November of last year. She has been asking them to come down. And she has known the dates they are coming down for 3 months since the tickets were bought back in January. I also go to school full time as a student for my Bachelor's of Health Science. And that is our agreement. I pay the car and everything related to my school and the car in my name and she does that with the house in hers. Communication is key here as again I apologized for not including her in the decision but I am still flabbergasted by her reaction. It was the next logical step when the family will visit that someone needs to spend time with them. They are paying for themselves for everything. My mom often brings extra cash when she comes and doesn't let us pay for anything. And my wife has PTO as well but has not chosen to use it when they come down.

My mom and sister are visiting Chicago the week of 4th of July I started a new job 2 months ago, $21/hr I work a little over 40hrs a week, medical assistant. I make decent money and PTO accrues 1h for each 35-40hrs I work. I was going to work on my days off leading up to the holiday, so a full shift (9hrs) to cover the lost day's off as well as have some extra spending money just in case they want to do some fun stuff around the city. I told them in a group chat I requested the days off, wife is included in the chat too. I get a huge paragraph about how I should be making "smart financial decisions" and to "make sure I can cover all the bills". Like excuse me? It's my family. I am not quitting my job and I know I will be able to make up the difference after 1-2 weeks of working on my days off, let alone 2 months of work. I'm not spending money on anything and I make sure the car and insurance are paid. She is in charge of the house payment and groceries since he make almost 4x what I make. Is this anxiety or what? She is feeling so controlling right now and I feel guilty and like I'm a teenager who has to ask mommy, instead of a 34 year old. I'm getting the silent treatment as she watches a show we were both supposed to watch together. Gives no fucks. Why am I not allowed to take time off to see my family? She can too, she makes PTO as well and can take time off and have it be paid without "putting us in a financial hole" as she states it. I've already talked to her and said I am sorry, but I didn't think the decision would hurt your feelings this much since I have everything covered, even explained the plan. What is the problem? AITA???