Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/2jpEwtNu1K

Update 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/Ry9LfVNDfU

Update 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/lsbAf2Wqkp

Update 3: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/5CwiTlFtvw

Our phone call went well for like the first two minutes when I expressed how sorry I was that she wouldn't be able to come, and the visa officers should've been more considerate. It went downhill soon after. She said that this probably means she'll never be able to visit Canada, and a few weeks a year isn't enough, that my parents have gotten to be close to us for 2 years, now it should be their right, and asked if my husband called his uncle about a job in the UAE, since he wasn't answering her texts. I said I don't know but it won't work anyway, we live in Canada, we've started a family here, we have a support system here, my husband has a great career here, but we will definitely have as many vacations together as possible so she could spend time with my son. She then went on about how my SIL (her daughter) has been living with her in-laws since she got married, how bad her MIL is, how lucky I was to have such loving in-laws who just want to be close to us, and I should be more grateful. I told her I'm grateful for my son, my husband, and for everything we have, told her I needed to go and ended the call before I said anything more to her while she's still down in the dumps about the visa.

I texted my husband this immediately before she gets to him. He's probably not going to be happy since he wanted us to let her be comforted by the UAE idea but idc anymore, she needs to be told that we're never moving. I'm only going to call her on important occasions now like Eid and to send pictures if my husband asks but that's it. A sincere thank you to the visa officer who made the decision.

Sorry for the repeated updates, ngl this may have been meant to be a rant too, she's just so rude now all the time, it's so unreasonable. Also, based on a comment that my son may automatically be a Pakistani citizen after all, I called the Pakistani Consulate and when I explained the situation the lady there said my son is technically a Pakistani citizen. Then I asked about myself because it hit me, that my situation when I was born would've been similar to my son's, she said I was a citizen too. I'm going to be looking into how this could affect our visit before we attend my BIL's wedding in December in Pakistan. Thanks again, I won't be posting anymore, this issue is done as far as I'm concerned.