I female (25) just has a surgery a week ago. It was a knee surgery, not so major but of course like all surgeries, there’s pain, I can’t walk without crutches and I am relying heavily on family to help with basics like food, water. The only thing I can do is eat, barely walk to the bathroom and barely get dressed.

When I got the news of the surgery, I told all of my family and closest friends. I told them when it was, what to expect and how long it may take for me to recover. I was hoping the day of the surgery I may see one or two of them but I knew that they may be busy working or may think it’s overwhelming for me and give me some time. However, it’s been almost a week now. They all sent me “get well soon” message wishing like the first 24-48 hours but I’ve barely heard from them since or they sent a “how are you doing text”. NONE of ANY of my friends have come to see me in person. Not my best friends, lowest friends or furthest friends, NONE. This was the hardest week and thankfully my family was here but I still hope they would be. I knew that people or friends that aren’t close weren’t not going to be that engaged but my CLOSEST?

I feel so sad and slightly devalued. I feel this because I know for someone else, they would at least send or bring a flower, make a visit or bring some food in the first few days. I have gotten not even a card.

I am giving them until Sunday to Visit. If none come, I feel like I’m going to cut them off.

Am I expecting too much? Am I supposed to communicate to my closest friends that I want them to visit and not just a text after big medical issues like this? Am I overthinking?