My father passed a week ago today. In the 6 months since the initial incident that lead to his cause of death, 2 members of my family, in addition to 2 other extended family members did everything in their power to alienate me in the process of preparing for my father's final days. To note I am my father only living relative in immediate descending order.

My 1/2 sis, we will call Sri and her partner My mom and her partner.

When my father fell in his apartment he was found by a caregiver I had for months insisted he got, because my fear was this would be the way he would go (found on the floor). After two days on the floor, he was found and taken to an area hospital. (Nov 2024) I in Europe finishing finals got a call from my estranged mom stating he was in the hospital and that she let the hospital know she was a cousin and my sister was his daughter. I immediately questioned this and was met with rage and hung up on.

For the next few weeks with my medical power of atty , my father and I were able to control his nursing home placement, we kept in touch and I assured I would return to the states after finals.

When he took Ill again (Late Dec 2025), and he was taken to the hospital, his health was deteriorating and this is when Sri and my mom pounce, they get power of atty and send him to a facility. I am not told and it takes me a week to find him.

After locating him I am told that I have no authority and can be told nothing, devastated I just try to focus on finals. I continue to call to check on him and for him to hear my voice and by mid Jan 2025 I pass my finals and preparing to work on my thesis and of course travel to the US.

Arriving first week of Feb 2025 , I tell no one. I visit my dad we speak I realize that he has weeks so no need to fight. He is a veteran and only surving family can manage final affairs. I don't fight with staff, I thank them and continue to visit . In 2nd week of Mar, visiting dad , Sri happens to come. After not seeing each other for three years I am attempting to discuss POA with her, as my dad Is awake, she runs from the room, not to be seen again.I assume she calls my mother to let he know I am state side.

Mom the next week contact dad's sister out of state to tell her that she is planning the funeral and will have a military funeral. Father wantednto be cremated and have ashes buried overseas with no military funeral. But mom insist and says no one knew my father like she did, mind you she is married to another man and hasn't been with my father since the early 80s.

Dad passes and Sri and mom find out that their power died with him, I get a called from Sri the day after he died and was told " I could come get my dad's shit, since he is dead you bitch" and was hung up on. Took a day to find were the body went, they literally dumped everything on me out of spite, with no details.

To date his bank account has been used to make purchases, while his final burial funds had been sent there. They won't give me his bank cards. I don't have possession of his item they took from his apartment; making it impossible to close out things.

If I press charges in this climate, it would not end well. I could.

I just am spiritual beat down and don't have the strength for this kind of wicked warfare.

I don't want to talk about this at nauseum with friends, because it's not necessarily the best way to handle this. But a general consensus from strangers would provide different vantage point.

AITAH to walk away?