Abit of context... my sister had my nephew when she was 21 shes now 41. She got out of a DV relationship, and became a single mother. My nephew was born with cleft lip/palette which is why my nephews father walked out.. Yes he rejected his own son.

So my sister suffered from post partum and never recovered. It actually got worse! Fast forward to now 2025. Alot of doctors have told she HAS to see a psychiatrist because her own doctors noticed shes becoming "manic" long story in regards to that. So for the longest time me the youngest have always looked out for her because we have known shes "mentally not okay".

My sister went from being the nice girl to a literal demon. She is very mean, and it feels like she has manipulated her mental illness and used our mom whos 78! She has stolen from my mom twice from thousands by maxing out her credit cards. Which is another problem, my sister is addicted to shopping. Its almost like a high she gets and goes back to the same lifestyle and secluding herself. I have tried to help her in so many ways. I tried to beg her to please get help. I have created resumes, applied to different jobs, reached out to therapists for her, and nothing. My entire life she has chosen to stop speaking to us whenever she was being held accountable for something. This last time she took my moms credit card, she maxed it out and my mom found out. My sister yelled at my mom and told her to stop running and telling me because all I do is butt into the situation... mind you she didnt want to pay my mom back, so long story we threatened her to file charges against her, she slowly started to pay.

So the reason I am posting this is because idk what else to even say. My mom got very sick in 2022 and almost died from pneumonia bc of covid. Im so thankful she rehabilitated bc I somehow had to be her caregiver. We have a great mom...a perfect one? of course not. But years of my parents enabling my sisters behavior bc they felt bad for her has caught up. She gets angry when anyone visits them (since they live together) my nephew has slowly morphed into her. Hes 21, no identification, nevr been to college, never worked, doesnt know how to drive. nothing. They spend most of their days locked in the own bedroom. Depression? perhaps, but it seems as if its past that. Its alot. Its caused my mom to go into depression herself :( I tried calling facilities or even the cops to have her forced to get help, but unless shes harming herself they cant. Unfortunately she has ruined our family.... if you see her room it looks like an episode of TLC "Hoarders" all shoe boxes, packages etc. Have I delivered my messages wrong? perhaps. But i was so nice for so long! It hurts me that shes so mean to our mom, to all of us. When we have argued she breaks down and cries... my dad has tried talking to her and breaks down. Its almost like shes stuck in her own hell. We have all gone through shit, i just hate the abuse. My moms getting very old and its a matter of time this haunts her. idk. Just venting.