Here's some context, we have a toddler and it's already been a bone of contention about how much my husband steps in to do stuff around the house or how much he actually appreciates what goes into every single day.

He goes to board game clubs once every other week, goes out to watch football every other weekend and plays video games the minute our son is in bed so I don't get much time with him, and personally I don't think he offers as much help as he could (which he disagrees with). We both work, he's full time (4 days WFH and one in the office) and I'm part time but three long days all in the office. I do the bulk of the housework and deal with our son. My husband does the food shopping once a week, empties the bin every few days and walks our dog once a day. I think that's pretty lenient considering how much he works from home. He thinks he does plenty and doesn't let me talk about why it annoys me. If it weren't for my parents who are absolutely incredible and super supportive of me and my son, I'd feel like a single parent.

Anyway, yesterday he was getting ready to go to his board game evening and I'd not felt great. I've got an ear infection already so put it down to that, but suddenly I was violently sick and had diarrhea, something which lasted through to the early hours. I'm guessing on top of the ear infection I've got a stomach bug. He still went to his board game event with my blessing (because he previously said he feels I make him feel bad about going out so out of guilt I told him to go ahead). Luckily we had just put my son to bed, but I struggled to move for the whole evening.

After a few hours, he came home and had apparently cut his evening short because he was feeling ill. Turns out he also had the same stomach bug and both of us got little sleep and have felt generally so unwell since then. By the morning, it was my turn to deal with our son and allow my husband a lie in. Turns out my husband also has the stomach bug and so, while feeling incredibly dizzy and nauseous, I had to change all his bedding and clean his room where he had projectiled everywhere.

My husband woke form his lie in at 11.30am, had accidentally pooped the bed so I then had to clean it while he sorted himself in the bathroom, and then slugged out on the sofa while our son (still a super energetic toddler despite being ill) ran around and caused chaos. Our son had his nap near midday so my husband and I both tried to nap for a bit until our son woke an hour later. By 2pm, my husband had been making so many grants and grunts and complaining about how ill he is that he asked if he could go for a lie down. I couldn't exactly say no, but I did snap at him and point out I'm also unwell. He told me he hasn't got the energy for another one of my outbursts and 'long talks' about how I feel and took himself off to bed. That was an hour ago and our son goes to bed in three hours time so he's basically slept off the whole day.

I'm now sat here with an energetic toddler, an ear infection and a stomach bug still trying to piece together how I would up with what feels like the raw deal here once again. I'm pissed off and so fed up, but my husband gets angry when I try to communicate and will shut me down quickly which I feel he's done again. But at the same time I feel guilty about snapping and that maybe I should just be getting on with it all.

AITAH? Honestly, I can't ever tell when I'm being one these days because I'm so fed up ALL THE TIME. I know he's tired and unwell but I am too and I literally have had to keep going for my son, plastering on a fake smile and just getting everything washed/cleaned.

EDIT: The rare time he does listen and take on board what I say and actually change for a few days is when I'm a tearful mess who is threatening to end the marriage if he doesn't get his act together. Honestly, it doesn't happen often but doesn't feel like that should happen at all.