context here, me(18f) and my friend we will call Levi (17f) have been friends since middle school, we are both now seniors. They’re one of my closest friends and someone I have imagined I’d be friends with for the rest of my life. I move a lot due to my parents work. while I’m still in the same state, I currently live 30-45 minutes away, but have lived hours away in the past. we get to see each other a handful of times a year IF we’re lucky. In the past we’ve gone over a year. We’re the type to go through phases of talking 24/7 to just checking in. I have a drivers license and car these days (tho for the past couple of months I haven’t been able to drive my car due to needing new brakes and rotors). They do not have their license. The last time we saw each other was less than a month ago for about an hour as I asked my boyfriend if we could stop by there while we were in town helping a family friend of his move. Every time I’m in town I text them and my one other friend that lives there to see if they’re available for a hello. They go to therapy like 10 minutes from my house and I’ve asked multiple times if they want to come over after or before and they’ve responded positively and it’s never happened. In the past my parents have canceled most of the few plans we make, most notably this incident and plans for a concert in another city that we were making a whole day trip for. This happens to me pretty often as they are whishy washy, it’s honestly made me kinda flaky with my friends. But I know that when I graduate high school they will stop trying to be an authority on my time and plans (this is how it went with my older brother).

So onto recent events. For about a month now we have been planning to go to a theme park that me and my boyfriend have passed too, I have a free guest ticket I was going to give them. We made all the plans and set times and such for this Sunday (April 6th). Unfortunately my senior prom fell on April 5th, we made these plans before I knew our prom date and I really had no problems doing both this weekend. But this morning I fell back asleep after my alarm and missed my first two class periods. While this is totally my fault, it wasn’t intentional at all. my insomnia has kept me up till atleast 2am for weeks now, I wake up at 6am. My parents were pissed and told me I had to pick prom or the theme park trip. Given me and my boyfriend have poured a lot of money into this as we both think it’s a very important, you only do once, type thing, I chose prom. Really I don’t think my mother would’ve let me not go to prom, she’s making a bigger deal about it than I am. I figured I can change theme park plans I can’t change the date for prom or refund the money. I texted Levi this afternoon, I’ve written a transcript of the texts below since no screenshots allowed.

Me: Your gonna hate me 😭

L: don’t do this to me

L: please

Me: But I have to cancel. I fell back asleep this morning and missed my first two classes. My parents are angry and said I can either do prom or Busch gardens this weekend

Me: But I hear your free may 30th- (we have previously talked about this)

Me: I’m really sorry dude, I didn’t mean to miss class I just haven’t been sleeping well. Sadly my parentals found me asleep

L: fuck this man

L: just

L: fucking. go with someone else i can’t fucking do this shit anymore.

Me: what?

Me: I’m not going with anyone?

L: go with someone else on may 30th.

L: i’m not doing this bullshit again.

Me: what bullshit?

L: every single fucking time

L: EVERY TIME. (My name) when was the last time you saw me? how many plans had we made that YOU canceled.

L: i don’t have friends (my name)

Me: I can’t do anything about that. I try and make an effort to see you

Me: When I’m in town I text you

Me: My parents are asses with plans

L: i don’t really give a shit anymore

Me: that’s hurtful

L: i’m being a dick and i know that

L: but i can’t keep getting canceled on

L:I mean I literally cannot take it

Me: There’s nothing I can do until I graduate high school man. My parents have the final say

L:I’m done

L: that’s it. I’m just done.

Me: What could I have done (Levi)?

Me: What options did I have? I tried really hard to make it happen I always do

Me: Burn whatever bridges you like ig

I didn’t expect them to be happy or anything but i definitely didn’t expect her to be mad at me either.

Am I the asshole here? What do I say or do to fix things? I know I fucked up by missing class but I’m upset that i had to cancel too, obviously I want to see them, I tell them I miss them and call often. The way they talked made it sound like I was canceling on them every day. We don’t make plans super often so their often full day things which my parents are the most prone to cancel. I don’t know what to do to make it better. I don’t want to lose them as a friend but what can I do, they’re my parents. I find myself on that weird line of excuse vs reasoning. This is someone I’ve supported through a lot and vice versa, yeah I kinda miss out being there physically but that’s all my friends from places I’ve lived. I always give my all to be there emotionally. I was definitely a dick with my last text though, I was definitely defensive the whole time. I just started feeling attacked for something that is out of my control. I hate being flaky.

Edit: fixed text spacing