OK. Sorry this is long, but you will need some context. Me(59f) and my friend(61f) are in a major impass. I want to go away for my 60th birthday. I know that makes some people upset because I will be away during my birthday, so many friends have said they wanted to come. Only one friend(56f) has been working with me too plan this trip and we have started to plan the trip, only bought airfare at this point. My birthday is in July. My other friend(61f) who I have been friends with since I was 16 have had our ups and downs lately and are in different places in our life. She does not work, due to some injuries, and does not really travel that much lately, said back in February that she wanted to go, but had not called me since that date, in which I had called her. I have made ever phone call to her since last summer. She has not called me except once where it was a missed call, I have checked my phone records. She will send memes or videos via fb or maybe text after I text her. she lives in a different state but comes to the area to visit her mom, and never visits. I am always expected to go to her. I really feel like our friendship is one sided. So when she said she was going to go on my birthday trip I took it with a grain of salt and said OK. She has trouble getting around. I originally said I was thinking about going to the beaches of Spain, but then my other girlfriend and I decided on traveling the coast of Portugal. In the meantime, I connected with her daughter about something else and mentioned Portugal as the trip and she said oh my mom would never be able to walk in Portugal because of the hills, she had been there. I did not feel like I should change what I want to do because of her limitations, it is my birthday and I am pretty active and loved the idea. I have always wanted to return to Portugal after only being there for a day and a half previously. But at the time I had spoken with her daughter I had actually forgotten that she said she wanted to go, but I blew it off since she had not contacted me again about going, I thought she was just saying that. I have planned things in the past which she backed out of last minute, but not this big of a trip. I then reached out once again to my friend who never calls me and she said she just expedited he passport for renewal. I said oh, you are still going? We decided on Portugal, she said well what about the beaches in Spain, easier for her and I said we decided on Portugal. A few other words were said and she said she could not talk to me anymore and needed to process this. I sent her the flight information and told her she was welcome to join us because that was all we did so far and I haven't heard from her since. This isn't the first time she has been mad at me for something i am doing in my life that she wasn't included, claiming I don't think of her. And I think she never thinks of me and the only time she does is when I reach out to her. Ps. she did text me in March last minute to come to her house that evening because she was having friends over, 6 hours prior and she lives 1.5hrs from my house. She I give up on the friendship over this or just let it blow over? I am not changing my trip and am going to finish planning this weekend whether I hear from her or not.