I'm 40m, single parent to a 6yr boy. My wife died when he was 6mo and since then it's been the 2 of us. He is my joy.

Yesterday I asked my wife's mother to collect him from school snd take him to his football class. The reason for this was that I had a date, I was going for a drink snd some tapas with a woman after work, first date since losing my wife.

But here's the thing, my son is neurodiverse. Undiagnosed due to his age in UK, but he definitely has an autistic spectrum condition.

My son loves football, but he insists on wearing his pink tshirt snd orange shorts. He won't wear a football strip as he hates the the material on his skin. I don't care. He loves playing and the other kids love him being on their team.

An hour into my date I got a call from granny. she had to take him home as he was screaming. I asked why and she told me she had put him in a football strip that she had previously given him for Christmas. I had previously told her that he was to wear his favouritr pink tshirt and orange shorts. Her response - 'you're turning that boy into a fairy'.

At that I left my date and went straight home. He was still wearing his football strip when I got home and was very distressed. She said he had been screaming like a baby for 2 hours by thsg point. I told her that she was a cruel woman and asked her to leave. In my anger I said she wasnt to look after him again. She got emotional and told me that she already lost her dauthter she cant lose her grandson too. I told her we would discuss when I had calmed down. I gave my son a bath to relax him and took him for some ice cream which helped cheer him up.

I'm literally seething. The woman I was out with seemed to understand, but it's clearly not feasible for me to date right now - which I'm fine with. My son is my priority.

Anyway, I don't know how to deal with my mother in law. I've lost all trust for her now and can't see myself being able to let her look after my boy alone. I know her fairy comment is possibly her age and her wanting to make him more 'normal' but it just made me sick to hear that. He is a gorgeous little boy and I do everything I can to give him a happy, safe and loving childhood.

AITA for being so angry? Did I blow this out of proportion by cutting short my date and asking my mother in law to leave?