If you would like ss please dm me. Hey everyone. The conversation below was moderately revised by ChatGPT to take out our names. I saw my ex at a scholarship ceremony this morning and shared with this guy J, and his unsolicited response pissed me off. Did I take this too far... Does he deserve forgiveness?

Me: Omg [My Ex] was there. He took this picture. He also went on stage and spoke as representative for his school but omg. He kept fucking side-eyeing me and ignoring me so I went HEY congratulations, will you SPEAK to me? I gave his mom a big ol’ hug while he was still refusing to talk to me. We didn’t end on bad terms, he’s just awkward asf.

J: Interesting

Me: It was so weird

J: Yeah well that’s what happens when people are exes lmao. Most people can’t be friends with their exes unless there’s ulterior motives.

Me: I don’t want to be friends but like… if I see them in public I’m gonna be friendly. Like, ask how they’re doing, what’s up.

J: Nah not me

Me: I think it’s the mature thing to do

J: I’m ignoring them Yeah maybe, but so is not giving them your time of day. You’re saying this bc you probably broke up with him Broke his lil heart

Me: It was mutual. If anything he had the final say. I think it’s such a waste of fucking mind space to hold grudges, it’s so stupid. Especially if you ended shit on good terms.

J: It’s not grudges lol

Me: Pretending to not know them, whatever. There’s no fuckin’ reason???

J: I mean like y’all were intimate and it’s fresh so like of course he doesn’t wanna talk to you. It’s a thing of trying to figure out what it was in your head and if you keep talking to that person before you have time to process the reasons for which it wouldn’t work out, it’s gonna give false hope to either side and someone’s gonna get hurt. That’s why exes go no contact. Sure after like a few months it’s like alright I’ma see what this person has been up to and hit them up and then leave them alone for a little while.

Me: It’s not false hope or regaining contact, it’s two minutes of conversation. And reaching out after a couple months seems weird to me.

J: Yeah but to him that might be too much at that moment and you gotta respect that. He could’ve really cared about you.

Me: K

J: You also took his v-card Don’t “k” me, fucker Am I pissing you off by stating facts rn

Me: Yeah it kinda is pissing me off because it’s MY relationship

J: I’m just giving my opinion miss ma’am

Me: I don’t need to be schooled on how to communicate with my ex

J: Don’t get mad at me for my opinion I’m not schooling you Bru Simply stating my view on it Brat But nah you’re right next time I’ll just say “damn crazy” and leave it at that

Me: I’m confused, are you jealous? We just congratulated each other — he also came up to me after the event to congratulate me and catch up. It’s being a cordial adult. He deserved a congratulations. I really don’t appreciate feeling judged for this, I’m sorry.

J: I’m not judging you, what? Where did you get that from? You said he didn’t talk to you, or barely. Lmao I was just giving how he might feel and why he might not have.

Me: I will not tolerate the way you just talked to me. It is insanely disrespectful and I will not have someone who “likes me” call me a brat and a fucker, or speak that way about how I manage my relationships. Jesus. Bye.

J: I didn’t mean it that way That’s my bad I shouldn’t have called you names — they weren’t meant to be disrespectful in that way, I was trying to be playful I’m really not mad I was simply giving my opinion and you got mad and I’m sorry if I overstepped — I’ll leave you alone But who actually uses “fucker” and “brat” as actual insults? But I get how it could’ve been perceived that way and I’m sorry It won’t happen again now that I know those words make you feel that way

Me: I’m sorry dude I’m cutting this off. The fact we’re not even dating and everything you just said are a huge red flag, and I cannot go through with this.

J: Okay what did I say that was a red flag so I know Like me not wanting to be cool with my exes is a red flag or the me calling you fucker? I really didn’t mean for this to go this way, I didn’t mean what I said in that way We haven’t set those boundaries though — like I was trying to lighten it up, I’m sorry if it was bad timing. Can we set those boundaries and continue? I think it’s just early on and we don’t know each other enough to know what’s acceptable and what each other finds really disrespectful And when me and [His Ex] were talking we both said shit like that to each other and I’m sorry that I tried it here — it wasn’t right or kind You have to understand my intentions weren’t to demean you or make you feel disrespected in any way, shape, or form And I’m sorry I seemed like an asshole when I was talking earlier. I should’ve just left it how it was — I really don’t like how any of that went down

Me: I need time to think, I’ll talk to you about it later

J: I’m still trying to build myself up to be a better person. I’m sorry I made you feel that way. But can we just put boundaries in place so I know what to say and not say — so that I can not act the way I just acted? Okay I’m sorry You don’t have to respond right now but I’ma say my stance. I know I fucked up by crossing your boundaries and I truly am sorry. But I think we have a lot in common and would make a good couple, and again, I’m sorry I overstepped and disrespected you. If you would give me a second chance, once we set these boundaries, I can show you that I’m not like that and it’s not a true picture of my character. I don’t want to waste what we could be because I was being dumb and said the wrong things. Again, take your time. I’m probably gonna go do some things around the house. But I would appreciate if we could set boundaries and move forward from there. I apologize.