For context, I'm 18f in college and he's 18m, moved here from another state. I'll call him Mickey.

Mickey and I connected through social media, and he had feelings for me and acted almost possessive. When I told him my dreams of being a circus performer, he said "but then we won't be able to date". This was after one day of talking.

I had feelings for him, but he lived an hour away and had no interest in learning to drive or going college. I tried to convince him to get his life together, but eventually I told Mickey I couldn't date him.

Anyway, we talked about once a day as friends but I thought I made it clear that we weren't dating. He would ask pointed questions like "would you want me to be in your bed" or "do i make you happy", and occasionally i would say yes. I caught feelings for another man a few days after I stopped interacting with Mickey in a flirting way. I liked the new guy, but after a day of talking it didn't work out.

Thinking we were friends, I told Mickey that I was sad due to the fact that it didn't work out with the other guy. I know it was messed up to tell someone who had feelings for me about it, and I feel guilty. I wasn't thinking.

Mickey went off on me, telling me I was a cheater and asking me how many guys I talk to. He told me that I was promiscuous and that I went behind his back and used him and the other guy for my benefit. I've been crying so much now, wondering if I really am a cheater and a horrible person. Am I the Asshole?

Edit: I honestly feel really bad for Mickey. He lost his brother in a horrible accident, and he would cry on the phone with me and tell me how scared he was in life. I know that he was mean to me in the end, but I truly feel like I let him down.