My bf (21m)and I (20f) have only been together since Valentine’s Day. He asked me to be his gf by leaving flowers on my car while I was at work.(he wrote a note that got lost so he just told me what it said) it was a lottt he even said that he love me in it which I told him I don’t feel the same at this time but would definitely want to be his gf. Some context, we were close in elementary school but stopped talking in middle school after I asked him to be my valentines and he agreed but also agreed to be another girls and I found out and didn’t talk to him after that. Until around 2020 we dmed on ig, this was on and off for years until this year he asked if I’d be his valentines and we went out. It was awkward ofc but I still enjoyed his company and we went on a few dates eventually we had sex and that’s why he said he loved me in the note, he only did that with people he loved. Which later he ask how many people I’ve slept with after tell me hes only been with 2 other people. I was honest and told him it’s 20. He didn’t like my answer but obviously there nothing eithet of us can do about it. He told me he has a decent amount of girl friends which I’m not the biggest fan of but he’s been friends with them before we got together and told he if I was uncomfortable with any of them he would drop them. (I don’t think I could ever ask him to do this though) Something else I should mention is he has a very high stress job and works nights. Before this was working out well for us to see each other as my schedule is flexible and he works the weekend. But lately it’s just been me planning dates and such, he does says he just can’t think of anything which is fair bc I choose stuff that we’ve already done. He also has gone from 3 12 hr shifts to 2 12hr and 1 16 hr and gets held late so making it an 18hr shift. So I want to let it slide, he is tired and I understand that. Usually, we will plan when we are going to hang out on Sundays, but because of his long shift, we didn’t get to talk about it, and I was already at work when he told me that today was the only day that we would be able to hang out so I told him to come up to my job and we can go from there on what we’ll do. Then while we were hanging out, he told me that he had to go to an award ceremony tomorrow that he is a plus one for his job or not really for his job for his partner who is accepting the award for something that he did even though he told me that he doesn’t even want to go to it just his partner does so he feels obligated. I feel like we need better communication so I don’t feel like crap just now finding out I need to hang out with him today or I can’t at all this week.