For context: Me and my friends frequent this same bar a lot (in a college town) and have gotten to know most of the people that work there. She is dating the bouncer so we are there after closing a lot. A few months ago there was a super cute bartender I haven’t met before and I flirted with him a little. He told me he had a girlfriend and that was that. Well, recently we’ve been there A LOT and I took a picture of him and his friends on my digital camera. The next weekend, he asked if he could send the picture to himself. I did then he texted me.. and from there was flirting with me all night. I asked him if he broke up with his girlfriend and he said yes about a month ago. So that night I went home with him. Nothing happened just talked and kissed a little. Well anyways, next weekend comes and I’m at a music festival. I’m at the concert and I look to my right and see this guy who is always at the bar we go to. (Doesn’t work there, but is there a lot) he starts flirting with me then we hang out for a while. He gets my number and asks if I’m doing anything that night. Ended in him asking me to come over and I said okay. I uber there and as soon as I walk upstairs I realize I made a huge mistake. The bartender that I went home with the weekend before is his roomate. I didn’t know what to do in the moment. So I told him my predicament and we decided to just lock the door and tell the roomates he was going to sleep. We did nothing but talk. Also found out the bartender cheated on his girlfriend with me and they broke up that Monday, and all of his friends had been wondering “who was the brunette girl he brought home last weekend”. I left early in the morning and no one saw. Later that night we go to the same bar after the music festival and the bartender was there. He was being super sweet and asked me to come over. I didn’t know what to do or say honestly. I said sure I could. He said he would pick me up after he got off. On his way to get me, he texted me “you were with my bestfriend”. I’m assuming the friend told him after he told him I was going to come over. I apologized profusely and told him I had no idea and that nothing happened. It was a drunken mistake staying there after I realized. He told me to lose his number. Now I don’t know what to do, my bestfriend’s boyfriend works there so I can’t really avoid the place. But I feel horrible especially because I’m not the type to normally even go to a guys house like this. I feel disgusting.

Also, not really trying to date this guy. But he is super hot and it’s kinda fun to have a bar boyfriend lol.. anyways. Not sure what to do about this situation. But I’m pretty upset with myself.