Okay so I just looking for a last resort here to help my brother out. He is 22 yrs and his gf is also his age. They have been dating since school( when they were 17). We are 3 siblings here, so we are 2 sister and 1 brother. So, after school it’s been long distance for my brother. He studies his bachelors In the U.K and she’s in India.

So basically right from the start we have been seeing signs that she’s been toxic to my bro. She doesn’t like him talking to any girls/ even some guys. She broke off his circle that he made formed friends with there. She uses really bad degrading language while talking to him. She picks up fights with my bro, when she comes to know that he will be with his sisters that’s Us, to ruin our day out. While she has only male friends who she calls brothers. She invites them all to her plc,so they can do weed and smoke up stuff. She doesn’t see any problem to wrong or wrong in this.

But even with all this, they continued their relationship and were happy.

Last year(2024), me and my sister were in her city and decided to meet her, as we also support her and think she’s changed and there’s a future with them together. So basically she came with her group (all guys) there’s this one guy Samir, who we found sus. He hands was all over her body, touching her up and they also left together separately for a while and then back to sit with us.

Cut to this month (April, 2025) she told my bro that Samir(their classmate) tried to rape her and make advances at her when she was sleeping. (She stays with a roommate, at a home her dad got for her to study comfortably near uni). So basically she got trauma and has been coping the trauma using original weed and smoking.

When I mean A lot, I mean A lot. She has been doing this since the start of her uni life. Even her parents have given up as she doesn’t take any advice and isolates herself.. now my bro still loves her but wants to breakup for his good as he has got into depression. But as soon as he goes into no contact, what she does is- she locks herself in the room with a knife and says she will kill herself if my brother doesn’t call her up. she says her precious boyfriend used to this do this knife situation thing and hard himself to control her. So that trauma she also has which hasn’t healed. And now she’s doing it herself.

Now I got to know a very shocking incident that happened. So during last year my brother’s birthday (Nov 2024) he had come to her city to celebrate his birthday with her. So there’s was a situation between them where she wanted to cut herself with a knife. But in the heat she by mistake stabbed my bro in the stomach. I clearly remember seeing a mark on my bro stomach and he said it’s a boil mark. But according to that friend group that they had to take my bro to the hospital for stiches. And they stiched it from inside so it doesn’t show or be visible. Also they got their contacts to hospital so they wouldn’t inform the police.

So this night me and my bro came up with a plan. As now we are back to the same city as her. For awhile. But my bro is in uni. We decided to talk up with one of her friend to constantly check on her so that once my bro goes no contact she doesn’t go any harm to herself. They already went no contact before but after the time she took a knife to her room and locked up herself they have started talking again.

Same time tonight she again started smoking up and doing weed. (Saw on her snap streak) now it’s 6:30 and she’s in the balcony saying she will jump off and suicide if my bro doesnt talk to her.

I just spoke to my bro for a few seconds and he has lost his voice because of crying so much. At this point I don’t want her to harm herself and I don’t want my bro to continue the relations with this girl. And want a smooth breakup.

Her parents live in Delhi but the thing is, if they come here to stay with her. This girl goes extra crazy and goes into isolation and disappears without feeling anyone where she is. So we can’t even contact them. Also she is the only child of her parents. They went though a lot of miscarriages before they had her. So they are in their 50’s and 60’s now. They are aware of her doings but they are also scared of the things she does when thry visit her.

Her friend are all usually drunk whenever we want to talk to them. All they do is hard weed and drink and smoke up. And when they reach their max capacity. That’s when the girl does this emotional black mail of taking her life. And they all can’t handle her as they are not in their senses.

St this point me and my sister wanna go down to her place and put her in her place. Though we are not that much close we are at least in the same city and it’s commute-able. And as sisters this is what we want to do for our brother.

I just want happy times back to my bro. And I dot. Want het r to do any harm to herself.

We cannot even ask for help because whenever we contact her friends or any helpline she goes into freak mode and freaks out.

She just disappears and we have to wait for her to come back.

I really think there’s a solution to everything. But this seems totally far fetched to even think of a solution.