Hello I am a first time poster. I believe context is important. Me (38) and my wife (28) have a beautiful 9 month old daughter. We have struggled with the ups and downs and being fresh parents with a new born as many have in our shoes. We fight vs talk and resolve and I feel that when we talk sometimes we don’t see eye to eye. So, last weekend my (28F) went out with her work friend under the pretense that they were going go karting, axe throwing and then heading back to the house and they all wind down and say goodnight. For a week prior to this night out her and I fought about this, I said we have responsibilities at home and I would like for her to have some composure and not drink to much and come home. In her opinion she felt she could drink and stay at her friends house. I said I have to take my other child (9m) to his first soccer game of the year at 8 am. This didn’t go over well. Push come to shove she met me with our daughter and my sons mothers house and drop her off with me, and off she went. Throughout the night. Communication was at a bear minimum so I just went to bed around 9pm. I wake up at 3 am to her at home swaying at the counter beyond drunk. I told her I was disappointed and we could talk later. Come to find out that the get together evolved and they ended up at the bar and that’s how she got so drunk. We talk and I tell her that it’s not that I don’t want her to have fun with her friends I just want her to come home and us be a family. She makes a post about it on here and most of the people agree with me but she doesn’t accept it. She says I can disagree with them. The following week I notice that everything is off about her. Wednesday night I ask to see her phone and she flips out saying “ it would be better that I just tell you” she tells me that she has been talking to a guy at work for the past two weeks. I ask to see her phone and I am truly shocked at what I find. They mocked me and said that they think it’s hot that she comes home and acts as if nothing happened after she was so naughty. They were scheduling a meet at our house on the day she kept a pediatrician appointment from me so that they could meet up. I found out that she went to his house on that Monday less than 12 hours after we were intimate to hook up with him. The day after they hooked up again and videos were sent to each other. We talk about it all and decide that we still want to be together. Exactly one week just 7 days after the whole incident I find out that the coworker she cheated on me with comes to her office and according to her, have a brief talk about not seeing eathother again. During our talks I stated multiple times that him approaching her is something that I would like to know about. She called me like she normally does on her way home from work and explicitly stated that HE WAS NOT at work and no talk had happened. Later that night I breech that topic and she told me that he infact was there and they did talk today. I asked why would she lie and she replied at least I told you and I was too tired to talk about it. I told her I understand due to us talking about getting over everything that transpired over the past week. To make matters worse, prior to the co worker conversation she asked if I wouldn’t mind if she went out for a weekend beech trip with the same group of friends she was with when she drove home completely and utterly wasted. What do I do? Sorry for the long post. Thanks guys