My husband and I have been planning to adopt for a while. We signed up with an adoption agency, and when we were finally able to start the process, we found out that only one child was available, a boy.

From the beginning, I’ve been clear with my husband that I only want to adopt a girl. He was fine with that, said there's no problem with that, but now that we’re in this situation, he suddenly thinks we should take the child that’s available. I told him no.

I don’t want a boy. I don’t care how that sounds or if it makes me a bad person. I just know myself, and I know I would never love that child the way he deserves. He should be adopted by someone who will love him and that’s not me.

My husband is upset and says I’m being childish, but I refuse to give in. I know what I want, and I don’t think it’s fair to bring a child into our home if I can’t love him the way a parent should. I know I'm not entitled to a specific child just because I want it that way but, at the end of the day, I don't care, at least with adoption you can choose the child you want and that's why I will stay firm with my choice.

AITA

You can say all you want, I'm not changing my opinion and I will not adopt the boy I don't care. I just want a girl and my husband is the one who wants a child without any disabilities (or a "retard" as he says) and to be same race. IDC