I (27F) just found out on the third day of Eid that my husband (30M) cheated on me.

We’re both South Asian (Pakistani), and we’ve been together since I was 15. He was my first and only love. We dated for 7 years before getting married, and now we’ve been married for 3 years. We have a 2-year-old child.

He was the perfect husband. Supportive, loving, and stood up for me in front of his family — which is rare in our culture. Just a day before all this, I was telling my mom how lucky I felt to have him. And now everything has fallen apart.

I found out he was emotionally involved with the receptionist at his workplace (he’s a surgeon). As far as I know, there wasn’t any physical intimacy, but honestly, I don’t even know if I can believe that. I had told him early in our relationship that cheating is the one thing I could never forgive — especially because I went through the trauma of seeing my own father cheat on my mother when I was a child.

Despite knowing this, he still did it.

The moment I found out, I was shattered. But oddly, I didn’t cry. I just went numb. I haven’t eaten or slept properly since. I feel like my chest is constantly tight — like I’m going to explode. The pain is constant but also… empty. It’s hard to describe.

What hurts even more is that I told my in-laws — my mother-in-law and two sisters-in-law — because I thought I was really close to them. Instead of supporting me, they’ve completely cut me off. My MIL started making faces, and none of them have spoken to me in the past four days. Their reasoning? That I “ruined” my SIL’s monthly visit to her parents. I feel like I’m being punished for something I didn’t do. I’m the one who was betrayed, yet I’ve been made to feel like an outcast.

The only person who talks to me now is my husband. He’s been begging for forgiveness, constantly saying sorry, giving me attention, promising it meant nothing, that he was stupid, that he regrets it — but I feel nothing toward him. I look at him and I feel absolutely nothing.

I want to leave. But he’s all I’ve ever known. I don’t know what life looks like without him. And yet, staying feels just as painful — if not more.

I haven’t told my own family. I don’t want to hurt them. I feel completely alone. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I should leave, stay, wait, confront the woman, or just run. I feel like this is the end of the world for me.

I just need someone to talk to, or to hear from people who have been through this. Am I wrong to feel numb? Am I wrong for telling my in-laws? Am I the asshole here?

TL;DR: Found out my husband of 3 years (together 10) cheated on me during Eid. We have a 2-year-old. I feel numb, betrayed, and completely alone. His family cut me off after I told them. He’s begging for forgiveness, but I feel nothing. I want to leave but don’t know how to start over. I need advice.