For context, I (20 F) have had a crush on my co-worker (20 M) for a little bit now. I’ll call him chase for the sake of anonymity. We both recently got hired on at our workplace, and we hit it off from the beginning. We just kind of clicked right away, and quickly became close friends. We have weekly hang outs with some of my friends at a brewery in town, and thus my crush and my best friend —who we’ll call Stacy (20 F) —met. They went to the same high school, but had never met. When I first met chase, I told my friend Stacy that I wanted to set them up. As I wasn’t interested, but i thought he was a good guy and would be a good fit for her.

So, me and chase start hanging out a lot. We went mini golfing, played basketball & would have really long talks in his car about life. We found out so much about each other, and found that we saw eye to eye on so many topics. There were even a few moments during our hang outs when we would be very physically close, and I felt like we had a connection. I started to catch feelings. One night, we started talking about my group of friends that come to the brewery every week. He said that he thought Stacy was really cool, and that he thought she was attractive. I remembered my conversation with Stacy about setting them up, and it came out like word vomit that I would set them up. He was really excited, and expressed that he saw her around in high school and thought she was really cute.

So, the next day we all hung out together and they sadly (😐) hit it off. They even left me to go hang out by themselves. They have been hanging out a lot now, and going on dates. They each come to me with questions and stories about each other. They don’t even talk to me if it’s not about the other person right now.

Neither of them know about my feelings, and I feel so guilty for setting this up knowing I have feelings for him. I don’t know what to do ! I can never tell her I have feelings for him, as this would come across as jealousy or that I don’t want her to be happy. Which isn’t the case, I just seriously regret setting them up and don’t want to see them together. I also can’t tell him about it, because obviously. At the risk of sounding immature, I liked him first and I wanted there to be something between us. Now seeing stuff happen between them makes me SICK!

Just need a little advice here. AITA for not wanting them to be happy?