So, I’ve been in this friend group for a while now, and everything was fine for the most part. Recently, though, things have been going downhill, and I’m not sure if I’m the problem or if they are. It started with me being a little less available than usual. Work and personal stuff have been piling up, and I haven’t been able to hang out with them as much.

Last week, we planned a dinner, and I promised I’d be there. The night of, I had some urgent stuff come up, and I had to cancel last minute. I apologized to everyone and said we could reschedule. No big deal, right? Well, turns out, A took it really personally. They’ve been acting distant, and when I tried to talk to them, they said they felt like I was pulling away and that I was being “too busy” for them.

I was genuinely surprised because I had no idea they were that upset. I tried to reach out to B and C to see if they were feeling the same way, but both said they weren’t bothered by it. B even told me, “You’re fine, it’s just A being dramatic.” But then C pulled me aside and said I should be more considerate of A’s feelings and that I’ve been “kind of selfish lately” without realizing it.

The situation escalated when A confronted me about it, and we had this huge argument. I tried to explain myself, but A accused me of not caring about our friendship anymore. I was blindsided by how angry they were. Now, A isn’t talking to me at all, and B and C seem caught in the middle. They don’t want to take sides, but it’s clear that there’s tension.

I’ve tried reaching out to A, but they just keep saying they need space and don’t want to talk. The other two are telling me to give them time, but it feels like things are falling apart. I don’t know if I should just back off and give it time or if I should confront A and try to fix it. At this point, I’m feeling like maybe I really did mess up somehow, but I don’t know how.

AITA for not seeing how much I hurt A, and should I do more to fix this?