i (15F) have been in a relationship for 4 1/2 months with my bf (16M) it’s my first relationship that has gone on this long. i have an avoidant attachment style, and over the course of the past month specifically i have begun to resent my bf. he is very clingy, he needs a lot of reassurance, which is something i find hard to give. he takes our relationship very seriously, but i don’t think im ready for his level of commitment.

he can sometimes act really immature and it gets on my nerves, however he’s also a really sweet guy, and it’s hard to find someone like him where im from.

when things go well, they go really well, but recently what we had just felt dull and boring. i know that could just be the honeymoon phase, but i have no frame of reference for how i should feel.

the reason for this post was when we hung out with a group of friends, 8 of us. and we went swimming, one of our close friends (17M) is not conventionally attractive but is a lot more my type physically and emotionally. i would never cheat on my bf, but this made me start wondering if i really fell out of love with my bf.

me and my bf are very similar people, and most of my current friends are his friends, so if i was to break up with him i would have no one, but most of our friends are graduating in may anyway.

my best friends outside of the group said that i am a naturally flirtatious person (i am not making advances on other people) however, they said i might just be bored of lack of dopamine from the withdraws of attention im receiving now.

is it normal to feel attracted to someone else while in a relationship but not want them romantically? what should i do? i feel horrible but i don’t think breaking up with him this school year would be viable, but maybe i should wait a month and reconsider?

edit: if we were to break up i would NOT be going for the friend mentioned above, i was just using him as an example for how i’ve felt.