Background info for context:

I (29F) am in school. I’m almost done, and I have just enough loan money left to pay rent until I graduate. I’ll have to take out another small loan to get me through the gap until I start working. I’m also a single mom. My best friend of over a DECADE is (33F) a wanna be model and content creator, no job, mooches off of boyfriend (no hate towards that, but he’s abusive and she stays because she’s too afraid to have to go get a job and pay her own bills)

Her birthday was last week and she lives in another state. One of our friends had flown down to visit her, so my best friend was going to drive her the 4 hour drive down to where we live so they could do photo shoots on the side of the road in the desert. I told my best friend she could stay with me, drive back the next day, and I would take her to dinner since I couldn’t come down due to school obligations. Mind you, I’m doing bad in a class and was going to take the night off studying to celebrate her birthday even though my exam is in 2 days that kind of determines if I graduate in May. She chose the most expensive restaurant in the area even though I was just venting to her about financial stress a few days before. Wasn’t really wanting to spend $400 on dinner and drinks when I feel guilty buying myself a new hair dryer that’s on sale because mine caught on fire, but whatever. I make the reservations. She said to make them late because she wouldn’t be at my house until 8:30, so I made a 9:30 reservation.

She never showed up.

I called her at 4pm because I checked her location and saw she was 4 hours away on the side of the road (I’m assuming doing a “photo shoot”) and she ignored my call. I was trying to see if we should change plans, make a later reservation, whatever. I post an instagram story, she watches it 10 minutes later. Cool, so you’re on your phone, ignored my call, and you know we have plans? She never gave me a courtesy text that she would no longer be coming. Never called me back. Went to stay with our other friend I’m assuming.

She has always been like this. Inconsiderate of everyone’s time, always late to everything, and inconsiderate of other peoples money. (I’m assuming she has no concept of it since she just asks for money when she needs it and hasn’t worked to pay her own bills since she was 24, but still)

Would I BTAH if I (politely) went off on her for being so inconsiderate and telling her she needs to grow up? I want to block her on everything and cut her out of my life completely, but we have been friends for so long… maybe I’m just over reacting?

TLDR; out of state best friend of over a decade never showed up to premade plans, ignored calls, and was inconsiderate of my financial situation by choosing one of the most expensive restaurants in the area for her birthday dinner. I want to cut her off.