By Rebekah897 • Score: 2 • April 23, 2025 2:30 AM
I have two friends R and N we have all been hanging out everyday this entire school year since R introduced me to N. Me and R have been friends since 2 years ago when we met and at the time we both had very few friends so we clicked and ever since then we've been friends. but at the beginning of this school year I had gotten out of a four year friendship with a girl I considered my "best friend". I feel that my breakup with my ex best friend has caused me to have trust issues and I have had an overall decrease in my mental health. I have also always been that one kid who had very few friends so I don't really know how to make friends or how to be socially open, which is the complete opposite of R and N. They are both really open people like for instance they sing loudly down the hallways to class and bust out into dance moves randomly, and aren't afraid to put themselves out there. R is also very out there on social media and has tried to gain a good following on social media which she has accomplished. I think this might be the first strain in our friendship since I would get uncomfortable and awkward when they would be open like this or when they would try to do dance videos or tick toks. They noticed that I would feel uncomfortable and so they overall just stopped being their open funny self's around me and never took pics with me or made videos with me. Like they just didn't even ask anymore they just said "oh here M hold the phone and film us" or " take this pic of us real quick" and then they started leaving me out of jokes. At first I thought I was just being jealous and that they were trying to be good friends since I would get insecure when taking photos or videos. But the truth is that I like when they joke around or when they take pics of all of us together or make tik toks with us all and now I just feel that I'm an accessory for them. They don't talk to me outside of school and never text me. I've even suggested that we add more people into our group since I thought that would maybe ease my jealousy since I thought my feelings were just me being jealous and overreacting. But they always shut me down saying "uh no I like our trio and I only like friend who like know each other but don't all hang out together plus big friend groups are annoying and drama". Which at this point I feel like if I don't start adding people into our group to sit with us or find other people to hang out with I'm going to truly start to hate them. Because recently I've noticed the looks they give me or my two other friends when they come over to me in the mornings and I feel they've changed and have started to act more idk "pick me ish" they only talk about "fine shyt" or "my video only got _ views". I also recently had a birthday which we went to a hockey game and I had N and R plus 3 other friends come and afterwards my mother pulled me aside and told me that N wasn't aloud at our house again and that she doesn't feel that I should be friends with her. She explained to me that N acted differently towards my other friends and that she tried to exclude them and pulled R into it too. She told me that they both started to exclude my other friends and that I started to act weird as well and was pulled into their little shell. After that talk I was really at a loss for words because that was the first friend that my mother had said she disapproved of and I don't think my friendship can even be the same with N again. After that talk I texted each of the other friends that were at the party excluding R and N and asked them if I acted weird and if R and N acted rudely towards them and apologized. All of them said not really but that they did kind of get a vibe from N and somewhat R. So now I've been distancing myself and hinting to N and R that I didn't like our friendship which they've started pointing out my behavior and telling me that I've been word and acting quite lately and I noticed that yes, I have been acting weird because I don't think I can continue a friendship with them. But what do you guys think AITAH or should I stop overreacting and continue to be friends with them and try to get past these weird feelings I've been having?
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