(F 31) I’m aware of how that sounds. So for some context, this man (M 32) was my high school sweetheart first sexual experiences, all that. I was very immature and toxic as a teenager in a relationship, and we split a little after highschool, and he went off to the army. We didn’t reconnect except for maybe once or twice, when he would be back in town, but again I was still young and wasn’t looking for a relationship. The last time we had any contact was about four years ago, we found each other through social media and had planned to meet up to catch up and say goodbye before he went off somewhere else for the army. The plans didn’t fall through that night and I hadn’t heard from him since. A year later approximately, I get the most random Facebook message, from his account, mind you we were not friends on Facebook and had no mutual connections. The message said “ I have a boyfriend now!” . Nothing else and then when I went to go check on his profile, it looked like I had been blocked. Yes I was just confused and super weirded out. I actually believed it like OK is he trying to tell me I turned him gay or something? lol. Yeah, weirdly enough the profile picture he had was him and another female with their backs turned to the camera, in army type environment I guess. Anyways, I chose to believe he had found me and needed to deliver that news to me for whatever reason. Fast-forward over the last couple years, I looked him up a few times , I ended up finding him, the account of the girl from that picture, and she had his last name. So then I was like what the hell is he gay or no? Fast-forward to a few days ago. I had actually came across his sister’s Facebook account and reconnected with her briefly telling her it’s been a while, but I’m wishing her and her family well still. His family absolutely loved me. She messaged back right away excited to hear from me, even telling me that her mom was so happy to hear that I just messaged, and was asking how I’m doing. We caught up a little bit and I ended up asking about her brother my ex, and she was saying that he was married and got married about three or four years ago. Now I’m not trying to sound like a terrible person, I’m coming from a place where I’ve lived life, and this man is still up to this day, the most wholesome and comforting energy that I met, and wished I would’ve been ready for in the earlier years. I honestly have been thinking about him so much and something in me is curious if there’s a possibility of being with him one day. So this is where I am needing some advice or opinions : I am in good standing obviously with his sister and mom. I’m honestly thinking of messaging his sister and asking if he’s ever in a position where he’s single, and so am I, if he’d be open to catching up sometime and to pass down my number to him. Is that too crazy or unhinged?? Here’s the thing. I totally respect that he’s married. But I’m also that curious about the possibilities. And the reason I mentioned that little part about that weird random message, I think this chick knew about me and was trying to scare me away and make sure he had no contact with me ever in life. Idk Anyways, just let me know your thoughts I’d appreciate it