So my parents divorced when I was 12 and my brother was 8 (I’m 30 now). My dad cheated on my mom with her best friend and he’s still with that woman to this day. My dad doesn’t have a backbone and just does what she says and this caused me and him to have an estranged relationship for about 10 years and I was no contact with her from the divorce up until 2020 when I decided to reconnect with them. They never actually apologized for all of the trauma that they caused my brother and I (it was a nasty divorce). She’s a very manipulative, controlling and fake person. I’m not that close with my dad but we have a better relationship than we did before. Nancy and I don’t have a relationship, we just talk here and there but I mostly talk just to my dad regarding when we meet up to hangout. Also, my mom and dad have never had a civil relationship ever since they divorced and Nancy seems to hate my mom still for literally no reason?

So I’ll call this woman Nancy, well Nancy was trying to play grandma ever since my daughter was born in 2023 and my husband and I were really annoyed by this and I let my dad know that it made me uncomfortable and she seemed to fall back a bit but now that my brother is going through substance abuse, she is seemingly manipulating my dad again to not be there for my brother but that’s a whole other story. Overall, Nancy is just awful to be around, I hate that I see her every 2 weeks when they come to visit us and I just feel like there’s no reason to continue forcing a relationship with her and having my daughter around her, I honestly feel like she doesn’t deserve it. I’m contemplating on fully cutting her out of my life and just allowing my dad to visit me and my daughter here and there. They live 10 minutes away from my house so my dad could visit easily but I would just prefer to keep her out of it. Thoughts?