I [29F] am getting married to my fiance [32M] in 3 weeks. We live in Europe and we're going to have 2 weddings, one in our home country "X" and another here in Europe.

Both of our parents live in "X", our home country. They'll be travelling to Europe for our wedding. Last year, we have agreed with my fiance's brother, Chris, that their parent (divorced) would stay in Chris and Anne (his GF) house. My parent would stay with me at our home.

But a week ago, Chris and Anne broke the agreement. Anne was upset that my fiancé didn’t tell her earlier that his parents would be staying at her place (we have agreed only with Chris). For context, it’s technically Anne’s house, and Chris lives there more like a tenant. even though they’re planning to get married next year.

Now they’re pressuring us to have his parents stay in our home with my parents, even though we don’t have enough space. They also suggested putting my family in an Airbnb or hotel, justifying it by saying it’s actually my fiance’s house (he bought it 3 years before we met)

I’m really upset because not only did they go back on our agreement, but this might be the only time my parents ever visit Europe. Meanwhile, his parents visit often and always stay at our place, even when Chris is the one who invites them.

Now, other family members (including his parents, other brothers, aunts, and uncles...) are siding with Chris and saying it’s not really my house, so I should back off.

I’m just looking for advice. I’m starting to have second thoughts about the marriage. I love my fiance deeply and I don’t want to hurt him, but this isn’t the first or last time his family has tried to take control of our lives.

He does support me, but he also doesn’t want to create conflict with his family.

Do you think Anne is right, that we should have cleared this with her instead of Chris? Since it’s her house, was it wrong to make the agreement with Chris without her direct involvement?

Also, I’m being told that since the house we live in was bought by my fiancé before we met, it’s not really my house, so I shouldn't be the one setting any rules or making decisions. Do you think that’s fair? Should I really back off just because of that?