Hey Reddit.

I’d love for some of you to weigh in on a frustrating circumstance I’m in.

Every year all the guys in my family go on a week long “boy’s trip.” Now this year, it happens to fall right on one day of the year I need to stay home. My girlfriend was kidnapped and had a pretty traumatizing experience some years back. Every year (not surprisingly) she struggles with her mental health on that day. So I try to take her out and do something fun with her all day, and maybe spend the night in a nice hotel. I want to try to help her feel that the past is over, she is safe, and I am here for her. She looks forward to us spending that day together.

The problem now is that this day falls on the second day of the planned boy’s week trip. I told my dad that I would come the day after, when we get back from the hotel and explained my reasoning. He will absolutely not accept what I want to do and thinks I’m being selfish and don’t want to spend time with him and the other guys in my family. He’s trying to guilt me into leaving my girlfriend at home that day, telling me that he does so much for me and I don’t appreciate him, etc. He does sometimes help me out if I’m in a tight spot, which I do appreciate and I think I show that I appreciate his help. He will not compromise on me missing the first two days though. He said, “she can be sad a different day. This trip is important, because we only all get together once a year.” On top of that, my mom actually agreed with him and says that my girlfriend needs to get over it and that I need to go on the whole trip.

So what do you think Reddit? I’m trying to do the right thing here and I feel like I am. But I need another opinion, because I’m sick of my parents telling me that I’m in the wrong.