Okay, I just need a reality check.

In-laws visit for an average of a 4-6 days every month and stay in the guest bedroom.

We may be losing the guest bedroom soon and husband told them it wasn't possible to host them a week every month like we used to, and they will need to figure out other arrangements. Because we're literally losing space.

They brought up that they could use my office. My office is technically a 2nd bedroom but I love that space. My husband has his own office that he barely uses.

I'd honestly be more inclined to get rid of my office if 1. We had another child or 2. Either of our parents are so down on their luck and something terrible happened that they need to stay.

But none of that is happening.

Husband told them hosting in the future is unlikely and everyone is losing their minds. Lots of crying, lots of guilt tripping, and I feel awful.

Am I an ass? I understand the unfairness of the situation. My own parents live very close by, so we have a better relationship with them but ... Even my own husband sees them once a month? And they've been so polite with him. Whereas for me it's 4-6 days a month and it's just cranky attitudes and snide remarks.

I don't want the relationship between in my in-laws and my husband and kids to stop, I just want to stop having to be so involved every month. I've basically started leaving the house for half the days they're here, hiding out at my parents.