Husband and I took our two week old baby to visit in-laws for Easter weekend, about an hour drive from us. Bb is cluster feeding during the day and sleeps for 2-3 hours at night before waking to feed, sometimes we get 3.5 hours if she’s had good feeds during the day. When we get there (2.5ish hours after last real feed, and about 20 min after I gave her a “5 minute snack” in the car while we stopped to grab food)i tell mil that baby needs to eat in a minute but after she says hello, and mil swoops her up and says something along the lines of ‘we’ll see about that/ she’s fine grandmas got her’, and straight up would not give me back my baby despite me saying she’s hungry she’s got to eat (my baby is not screaming so maybe she just didn’t believe me??) I shrug it off and just try to relax (maybe I am overreacting!) but it was fucking weird and pissed me off. Baby seemed fine so maybe she got enough food during those five minutes? Eventually I feed my baby but literally every second mil is swooping in to pick her up and keeps trying to calm her down when she’s obviously hungry. Like — good for you you can calm an exhausted hungry baby with a pacifier. Because getting baby fed isn’t important or anything.

Then other shit she says like baby needs blanket to sleep and rolls her eyes when I say no blankets in the bed. And we tell mil and fil no sleeping with baby in bed and this woman!!! Takes baby to her room upstairs while I’m in the shower and turns the lights off to cuddle my baby!!!!! She obviously took bb to her room (she never hands out in her room) to be alone with the baby. WEIRD.

I just did not get to hold my baby at all. And I did not get to respond to her hunger cues. And I’m really fucking pissed off about it. I actually think my milk supply has fucking dropped so that’s great.

EDIT: I let my husband sleep through all the night feeds last night after getting home late and he slept until 12 this afternoon. He was obviously pissed at me. I spoke to my husband after he woke up and asked why he was mad at me and he told me he wasn’t mad, I said ok, im surprised, but ok? He said he just wants to put the whole weekend behind him and I agreed but that I was concerned going forward because of xyz. I told him i thought it was weird his mom brought the baby to her room to be alone with her and he balked. I was mistaken when I thought she brought bb to bed, she was only sitting with her… (in the dark) and he claims I always “make stuff up”. And that I acted like a child? He said these past two weeks I’ve been the “WORST” and he’s been absolutely “miserable “ and that I’m a miserable person who’s paranoid and thinks people are out to get me??? He said “this is supposed to be the best time of your life and you’re just being a huge bitch and you’ve been horrible this whole time and this experience has been awful because of you”. And that I’m selfish and using the baby as a shield???? That the baby is fine (she is) and I’m just making stuff up/ relying on Reddit. (I’ve read 4 books to prepare myself for pregnancy and birth and newborn stage/breastfeeding AND HE HAS READ NONE. NOT ONE. so idk wtf he’s talking about). He just insulted me over and over saying how he wouldn’t get between me and his mom because of my discomfort. He basically said he agrees with his mom over me. He also claims that I didn’t voice my concern about her not getting enough to eat until we were in the car (WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK I VOICED THIS CONCERN 100000000000 times day 0!!! He just got too drunk to fucking remember?!?!?!?!?!) Now he’s left. AITA.