This may be an absurd question and I may be wording this the wrong way, but it’s how I feel and I may be irrational or delusional in thinking this way, but I still would appreciate some advice. I’m a 29f soon to be 30F. I’ve never been married and don’t have any children. For context, I came from a very disadvantaged background where we were living off of government benefits, domestic violence and abuse, mental health issues with so many people in my family. I vowed to myself that I would somehow find a way to get out of this situation. I hated being poor and it made my life so much more difficult and has affected my health. I have earned 3 degrees and make a very decent income and have lots of job security. Even with how ambitious I am, I’m still quite traditional and believe in traditional roles. As much as I love my job, making money, earning degrees I know myself well enough that as soon as I have a child that will be my greatest priority and joy. I would love to serve my husband as long as he is a good man. I would love to cook for him and have a neat and organized home. I have tried dating men who make more than me and have higher positions and they usually reject me. I’m not sure why exactly but that has almost always been the case. The guys who make less than me are the ones who cling and I just never find them attractive. I would like a man who is “bigger, stronger, more powerful” than me. Someone who makes me feel safe and taken care of. I’m not someone who would fall for an egomaniac because I’m smarter than that, but if I could find a kind and ambitious man that makes more than me, I would love it. I haven’t dated as much as someone my age normally would because I had to spend my early twenties overcoming my childhood traumas. depression, helping my family and raising my younger siblings. I’m tired and maybe that’s why I want someone who can take care of me. But is it wrong for me to want a guy who makes more money than me and is far more ambitious? Why can’t I find just the normal guys attractive? I feel like I’ve narrowed my search to only guys who are already making six figures or have potential to make a six figure salary. For reference, I make close to 6 figures and if I complete my masters then I will be well over the 6 figure mark