I am 23F and my Boyfriend 23M, have been dating for almost a year and a half.

But the story/ lore is this: MIL loves me, literally DIL loves me, also literally (gets upset when I don’t have for help ❤️) Aunts, uncles and cousins again love me. BIL loves me, he cares about my well being and I used to frequently smoke with him and other family members at gatherings (I’ll explain the ‘used to’ here shortly) BIL wife (aka SIL to make it easy) I think and feel HATES ME.

When I first met her she was pregnant but she seemed super nice but stand offish, which no problem I understand, you don’t know me, don’t trust me etc. I feel like every interaction I have with her she dislikes me more and more and I think it’s to the point she hates me, and is blatantly disrespectful and disregards me.

When the baby (her 2nd) was born she offered for me to hold him and I explained that I was too scared and I didn’t know how, the family offered to help but I was too nervous and had only known her 4ish months. Some time later she asked if I ever wanted kids and I said I did, but I wanted to wait till me and BF were married and financially ready… I could tell Immediately she did not like this answer, she shut down the conversation. More time in the future about 7-8 month mark, I was helping my BF watch the baby and he needed a break holding him, I was more comfortable with the idea so I held the baby. Within minutes I had the baby laughing and SIL noticed I had the baby RAN over and took him from me no explanation. BIL now seems to avoid me when SIL is around, but if she’s not around he talks to me offers to smoke joints Ect, BF of course has no problem with this and is really happy to see I get along with his brother. The other day I found a gift I’ve given her for her B-day in the trash, and saw nothing I given her is around, but everything my BF or the rest of the family has given are everywhere. And finally there’s some family drama, long story short her Nephew was accused of SA. My BF went to her house (with MIL and DIL) I was at work and she went past everyone to hug my BF and started crying and finding comfort in him. I found this very inappropriate because she should be finding comfort like this with her Husband, and In law parents.

I talked to my BF and he understands completely what I’m saying but he doesn’t see the same thing I do. He doesn’t defend her actions but he definitely dosent agree with me either he’s being very neutral.

This is just some of the more extreme actions I’ve seen. Idk if it’s in my head or I’m imagining it, I know you’re only hearing my side of the story but if I was doing something wrong I feel like the rest or some of the family would have a problem with me, but it’s just her.

What do y’all think? Is there anything I can do to win her over? Do I need to be confrontational?

FYI: I call everyone in law cause at this point me and BF know we are going to get married it’s just a matter of time and finances.

TLDR: I think my SIL hates me cause she keeps doing actions that says she does but no one else seems to see/ witness. Am I crazy? In the wrong? What should I do?