My gf and I have been together for 4 years and moved in together a few months ago. I dont have a lot of money, which is why my gf payed many things first. Due to my new job, by now, I have given her my share for everything except electronics, e.g. washing machine, dryer etc. My gf insisted on buying new and expensive machines, which is why we decided that these remain hers until I have the spare money.

Things had been tight but we managed everything: we had to move in 1,5 weeks later because the previous tenent didn't move out and left the place in a bad state. We both started our jobs simoultainisly, meaning we had to renovate and move in while working. Only worked out because our families helped quite a lot. Generally I consider communitcation to be an aspect my girlfriend and I are quite good at, but all the tension and stress led to several fights and arguments.

Generally, we agreed that money and household work should balance. Right now, I pay 45%, she pays 55%, meaning I am supposed to do a bit more in the household. Now a few months later, I am going back to university for my masters, meaning I had my last day of work in Friday. My gf, a doctor, has had a very rough couple of weeks, sometimes working 11-13 hours a day and/or working on Saturdays, which is why I did like 75% of household the past time. I did everything I could to support her as best as possible. I washed clothes, I did the kitchen, I cooked several times a week, I went grocery shopping all to give her a bit of breath. I dont mind. She has had a rough week and I consider us a team.

Now I left Saturday evening to visit some friends and come back today. My gf had been at work yesterday 10-18 which is why I didn't meet her. I did quite a bit of household yesterday but didn't do the the kitchen and the bathrooms. Now when I called my gf today she was absolutly infuriating, arguing that I left the flat in a bad state and all the work to her, and quit the call. I now am pissed too as I have the feeling that my work doesnt count. I have the feeling that I am the only team player. Am I wrong? I dont really know what to do or feel.