I have a feeling she does not hear some of the things I like though. For example gaming with the boys and alone time. I have told her multiple times that I really regenerate my energy when I'm alone and she can be quite neurotic so it's sometimes hard to be with her 24/7. Somehow she finds a way to attach attach and attach to me. Don't get me wrong she's great and everything but it's just smothering. And yes before women od Reddit try to tell me to be better, I listen to her and her her with problems. I stand by her, she trusts me and I get shit done. Still she seems to persist on this closeness that is just... Too much?

Every time I mention this (usually it's - I love you and I really need some time for myself to regenerate because I like to be with myself and listen to my own thoughts to ponder and reflect) she understands it but thinks something is wrong. I tell her that I'd be really happy if she takes some days to visit her family since they're 30 minutes away and rhey get along really well (I love them too and visit often).

Time goes by and she just sticks to me without recognising this.

The biggest things about is that she can really be overwhelming on little things (probably has ADHD but I don't like to put diagnosis on people that easily) and kind of ruins the whole purpose of having my own place where it's peaceful and quiet.

She doesn't even get peaceful and quiet. She's completely restless and just wants to ALWAYS plan and do something.

Now... Do you think this a compatibility issue?

I feel like sometimes she's Lavender Brown from Harry Potter and I'm Ron... Hope you know what I mean.

TLDR; My GF is overwhelming and I have a feeling she does not respect my boundaries due to her anxious attachment style.